If you find yourself caught up in the decision of a regulated diet or exercise, eat right or give up… It may be time to assess where you are and what and why you need the answer. Wading waist-high in decisions can be the one reason why we do NOTHING.
If like me you have found yourself staring at the less than satisfactory reflection of yourself in a shop window, convincing yourself that your value is not directly proportional to your size, digging deep to be ok with your XXL pants size while smiling broadly as a perfect size 10 stands next to you asking to advise on crop top versus chiffon blouse eating a muffin simultaneously, continue reading.
If any of this rings a bell then the next actions may too. With an absolute realization that the fat pants are having a dent in your self-esteem regardless of learning to ‘love yourself regardless of your shape and size’, you surround yourself with your bevy of friends to have a REAL discussion on your dilemma. Here comes the challenge, half of them spend time convincing you that you ARE GREAT JUST AS YOU ARE [not] and the other half start advising on better health. Debbie, for example, has done the Keto diet plan and she shook 15kgs from her frame and can only highly recommend it. Sally says no way, exercise is the only way to go, yes watch what you eat but you need to get a personal trainer AND exercise like a beast [YOGA is maybe an effort for you so the idea of sweating every day is making you cringe inside]. Pam pipes up that she got hold of Garcinia, a ‘magic pill’ that fabulously fries fat and eats and drinks whatever comes her way [not that she has ever struggled with fat and generally only takes it to make her bikini fit better than the previous summer]. Level headed Anna stays quiet, so you prompt her on her opinion as she NEVER seems to discuss fighting the bulge and she NEVER seems to eat at gatherings anyway, she claims without a blink of an eyelid that she never thinks about food, eats what she wants when she wants without it affecting her… [kill me now… – yes, there are Anna’s out there]. More confused than ever, you find yourself in a quagmire of opinions about how YOU should go about slaying the fatty dragon wrapped around your body.
No clearer on your direction to gain control of your thighs slapping together, you leave slightly demotivated. As you drive home, you try to convince yourself not to be ‘shallow’ and base a successful life on how you look, after all, everyone loves you regardless. Right here the devil and angel within start a full-blown battle… You are torn between handing over your thighs to fate versus acknowledging how you need to take control of the situation before your life span gets reduced or your size becomes unavailable in the shops. You end up leaving the arguing to the angel and devil and hit the bed to sleep on the way forward.
Morning comes, and you have decided now is the time to act. You realized that regardless of the love you feel from those around you, your self-esteem is teetering on broke and because you DO love yourself you are aware something needs to change. You also realize that YOU and only YOU can make a decision about what works best for you. Like a charging elephant [yes, the size of this beautiful beast was intentional] you decide to lean on our good friend GOOGLE to determine a direction. This IS where you WILL find the answer… [or not]. After typing out a string of searches regarding weight loss and fat loss and diet types and and and… you find yourself on a page about ‘cute puppy pictures’ and realize you lost the plot completely. Too many blogs later and countless email sign up landing pages later you throw your hands in the air… bugger it. Fat for life seems to be an easier answer, just then you get offered a muffin and you see it as a ‘sign’ that you should NOTGO ON DIET after all… 3 months down the road, 5kgs heavier, you sit through the same debate.
Now, this seems like a long sad story but I really wanted to paint the picture. If you are someone that struggles with weight, this story would resonate for sure. I would like to give some FURTHER advise to the hefty out there [this is not said in a nasty way, rather in a loving way as this IS familiar territory for me too!] for the roadmap to choosing a way forward.
THERE IS NO ON-OFF SWITCH
The world we live in allows us to live ‘easy’, as easy as it is for most people to switch a light on and off. EVERYTHING is literally at our fingertips. Ask and you shall receive has never been as real as it is in our current day and age. With this immediate gratification in mind and foundation of expectation, we not only expect regulated diets to be easy but FAST as well! And if it isn’t, we blame the diet. Generally, if we find ourselves desperate for answers we may just reach for something which is portrayed as THE ANSWER but is not necessarily OUR ANSWER. We are pushed by the ‘miracle possibility’ sold to us, YES, THIS miracle pill WILL WORK! And it will work FAST. Herein lies the fault and flaw to the entire process of selecting a regulated diet, we lose our power by handing it over not to the diet industry but to our assumption that ‘fast and dirty’ could work. We spend fleeting moments ‘deciding or choosing’ our regulated diets, charge forward to using/doing the regulated diet to crash and burn 2 weeks after starting [if we get that far]. The most important items to succeeding at fighting the flab are:
An inspired DISSATISFACTION with how your body fits on YOU
A clear understanding of what you are ABLE to use as a regulated diet based on your CURRENT LIFESTYLE
The clarity in the realization that there are no QUICK FIXES, no on-off switches, it took months or years to pile on, it may take as long to drop.
It has little to do with the diet you chose, it has everything to do with you STICKING TO THE DIET YOU CHOSE.
Accept the fact that not only do you have to live on a regulated diet to attain success physically, you will also need to do work on your MIND to accept and embrace the transformation.
GOOD THINGS TAKE TIME
We spoke about instant gratification. Heres the thing, when it comes to fatty fatness, it likes sticking around, if you see adverts for fat melting away like ice cream on a hot day, take cognisance of the fact that the brain is also made up of fat, and your body will protect it as best it can… also ask is it fat burning or muscle disappearing. Your body will protect fat at all costs ESPECIALLY if it is out of balance (fight or flight is important here), threaten your ‘survival’ through extreme regulated diets and your body’s resources [that would be the fat slapping thighs] will be locked up in two ticks. Now I am not saying you won’t rid your body of fat fast, there ARE actually healthy ways of dropping the fat fast, but use the brain and do the research. Generally, you can trust the company that shows the ingredient list and has scientific studies to back the product. So too, there will be not 1 or 2 reviews but many, check them out. Basically, fast IS possible, but check the chatter first! Personally, I have used a diet that managed to drop fat fast off my body, it was sound science, fantastic reviews, and properly planned. Those regulated diets that arrive by post with no support claiming magical fat disappearance not disclosing ingredients are NOT the answer. In fact, all it will make you do is dent your already wavering self-esteem when the magical fat-burning doesn’t happen to you… ever felt alien before???
Now, if you are on the larger side of life, be PATIENT with yourself. Acknowledge where you are and realize you can make the difference, over time… Write down how you feel currently, why you have reached this point of inspired dissatisfaction, it may be not fitting into a favorite dress, not being able to tie your laces, not being able to walk upstairs without sounding like a wounded buffalo, no matter what it is, write it down. I find 10 key points are a great start, keep that list with you wherever you go because just like we sometimes need reminding about a hair appointment, we sometimes need reminding why we are saying no thank you to a muffin too. This will keep you on the journey of reaching your success. We forget how awful that reflection was in the shop window when a choc chip muffin gets waved in front of our noses. Besides writing it down, record it to your phone, on the way to or from anywhere, listen to it, keep reminding how sh*t it felt to be that buffalo. You may have heard this before, motivation is like brushing your teeth, you need to hear it daily. Our prime instinct is to move AWAY from pain TOWARDS pleasure and that list will keep you on your toes when it comes to critical decisions on your journey.
Then take a look at the time it will take to lose the fat. If it is a long journey, let us say a year, it may seem forever, but we all know that obesity is the leading cause of illness, disease, and death. If we drop the fat we not only live longer but better too. Take that year and see how incredibly short it is in your lifetime. Zoom out and see your entire lifetime and realize that that year is over in a blink of an eye and with that, you can live a life filled with vitality to a ripe old age. If you have the tendency to worry about a birthday coming up that may interfere, know that you still have many more birthdays. A celebration? There will be many more IF you look after your health.
CHOICES MAKE US
This is not a willy nilly decision, a knee jerk reaction, it needs as much focus as deciding where and when you intend planning a vacation, how much you will spend, how you will get there. Choosing a regulated diet requires the same focus. This is where we get it all wrong, I will say this again, DIET’S ARE NOT TO BLAME it is our CHOICE of a regulated diet that is to blame. I have met with clients that loath a shake as a meal but opt-in on a shake diet, or that cannot stomach high fat but take on the keto plan OR someone who has a health issue but then decide to starve their bodies of essential vitamins and minerals which are key to healing themselves first. Point is, you need to sit down and firstly assess your daily processes, identify your strong points and work with those when choosing a diet. Let me elaborate, let us say you are incredibly busy and generally live on coffee and water during the day and the first meal down the pie hole is supper time. Would choosing a diet which requires planning, fresh-cooked meals 3 times a day preferably weighed out portions be the answer? If you said no to that option well done. Now it may seem simple but in pure desperation, people will attempt to move mountains and literally opt for the complete opposite of what they should in the hope that it will make some amazing difference. As a standard, it is human to stick to what is familiar and move away from the unfamiliar, you are possibly no different. Let us get back to the example above. The best possible regulated diet choice would be something that works within your strengths. As liquid is the primary input for the day, possibly a shake diet would be PERFECT for them, with a regulated meal in the evening. In that way, familiar stays fairly familiar and their strengths are worked with to lead to success.
The same can be said of exercise. Now yes, there are people who succeed to do a 360-degree roundabout when they move from passivity to doing exercise but it comes with the correct understanding of your own capabilities. Personally, I am not a fitness fanatic, a good yoga session is adequate for me, a walk even better. For some people struggling with weight they know they thrive on exercise and always have but for some reason, office, work, excess fat has prevented them from getting active, these individuals can start incorporating exercise once again and chose a regulated diet that fits within those parameters, here my only advice is slow and steady wins the race. If you are carrying excess weight you could damage joints along the way, try to shift some weight before doing MAJOR EXERCISE, stick to swimming or an easy stroll and work your way back to the gym.
Closing off, choosing and taking on a regulated diet is not a form of punishment, it is a journey based on your strengths and endpoint requirement. If you are feeling deprived or ‘punished’ as a result of your regulated diet chances are you have chosen the wrong diet for YOU. Take your time, be truthful to yourself and your regulated diet journey may just become a lot simpler. Besides the journey to your success, if you chose the right diet it BECOMES A LIFESTYLE instead of a LIFE SENTENCE and you can steer clear of the ‘haters’ when it comes to diets knowledgeable of the fact that you can make the RIGHT choice for your journey.
Even though no magic bullet exists in weight loss, there may be steps towards better HEALTH that promotes weight loss simultaneously. We take a look at magical food and spice PAIRINGS that are conducive to firstly your body getting healthier and secondly ramping up weight loss.
Below I have identified 3 primary pairings, firstly coffee due to the fact that most people love their coffee and if we can get it in AND benefit our health, AWESOME. The second is our consistent intake of starch and how to deal with this villain of a macro-nutrient without packing on the pounds… and lastly, a trilogy that not only reduces our chances of disease but may keep us looking younger too!
3 FOOD PAIRINGS THAT ROCK!
1. COFFEE AND COCOA
Being my absolute favorite drink besides good old fashioned water, I decided to start with coffee. But it is not coffee on its own that rocks, but the addition of cocoa to this tasty drink that creates an interesting fix in your cells. Cocoa has a wondrous way of controlling cell absorption of fat. Regular consumption of cocoa reduces the absorption of fatty acids in these cells, therefore, reducing your chances of obesity. Cocoa other superpower is that of thermogenesis in white adipose tissue and liver… ie FAT FURNACE extraordinaire.
So where does coffee fit in? Good quality freshly brewed coffee allows activation of fat cells, mobilizing it in your bloodstream making it available as energy. Now, if you are prone to drinking copious amounts of coffee and sitting dead still, it may not necessarily work in your favor, however, if you do this combination before your morning walk it may VERY WELL work in your favor.
The added cocoa prevents your body from storing fat and the coffee adds fuel to that fat furnace. A true win-win for ANY coffee lover!
2. CINNAMON (AND STARCH)
A second favorite for me is the delightful cinnamon, a spice that adds zing to just about anything, salty or sweet. Everybody is aware of the ability of cinnamon to regulate blood sugar by reducing the glucose that enters the bloodstream, especially after gulping down the muffin offering from a work colleague!
It has been found that cinnamon kindly gives a hand to digestive enzymes allowing the slow break down of carbohydrates in your digestive tract. It doesn’t stop there, it also contributes to your health by lowering blood sugar, it mimics insulin improving the glucose uptake. Yes, after believing our self-discipline WILL trump [oh dear…] and we WILL say NO THANK YOU to a piece of chocolate AND we DON’T, our trusty friend, cinnamon, WILL MAKE THE DIFFERENCE.
A word of advice, if you are on a regulated diet for ridding your body of unhealthy fat, and you include the not-so-good-for-the-waistline STARCHES, add a bit of cinnamon to the mix, and preferably get the starches done by lunchtime so that you can make good use of the energy load coming in. Remember that healthy choices in Carbohydrates are important in helping a healthy balance in your body.
Attempt to add cinnamon to just about anything which includes starches, you may be surprised as it adds another FLAVORSOME ‘level’ in the food you taste.
3. PEPPER TURMERIC AND HONEY
A trilogy of potent ingredients that assist our bodies to fight inflammation. In a near-perfect world of dutifully growing our own veggies, not using synthetic products – like ever [extreme exaggeration to get my point across of course], milking our own goats, etc. we can say we have zero inflammatory conditions – SAID NO ONE EVER. No matter our situations we have little chance of getting our mix of nourishment correctly unless we live in a bubble. With that comes an inflammatory response in our bodies, which of course is good and bad. Good in the fact that if our bodies are functioning well, an inflammatory response is a reaction to our bodies call for help, you know, those times when you go run a marathon, your muscles are aching and getting out of bed is tough… or not, maybe it was purely a stretched muscle as you reached for a TV remote [heheheheheh, sorry I could not resist]. Either way, inflammation gets dealt with by an inflammatory response. But, increased continual inflammation leading to continual inflammatory response can be pretty tiring for your body too.
As our little soldiers work consistently in the inflammation in our bodies [ladies – this continual inflammation could even be a reaction to the ‘magical miracle wrinkle-free life face cream‘ we are tempted to use], it takes its toll. By toll I mean serious diseases such as cancer, heart disease and Alzheimer’s, in fact, besides a compromised digestive system that leads to a heap of health issues, inflammation is the deadly step sister for sure! As inflammation consistently happens, we wear our soldiers down. In steps this trilogy… and yes, the trilogy is important… I am sure everybody has seen how Turmeric has been donned as a superpower because of its delightful ingredient Curcumin, the problem with this is that Curcumin is the shy sister of Turmeric, this little bombshell doesn’t come out to play with ease… [For the sciency type, it will not cross the blood-brain barrier without a push and a shove] Now yes, Turmeric is powerful in the anti-inflammatory role but without Curcumin being available for the same playdate Turmeric gets a bit boring. Why we need these two to work together is quite simple, reduce inflammation in your body and suddenly removing unwanted fat becomes a whole lot easier. Simply put, if our bodies are so busy putting out fires [inflammation] little energy is left to worry about whether you fit into a size 10! So what gets Curcumin out of the bedroom to play? Add a touch of Honey and a grinding of pepper… Both these ingredients are KEY! Honey politely lifts your insulin levels JUST ENOUGH for your body to notice Turmeric, and the pepper unlocks the door and says to the Curcumin, ‘Do come in…‘ Delightful as a daily tea, try it. Personally, I like using a green tea or Rooibos base for the tea but straight up is fantastic. Generally, a generous helping of Turmeric in boiled water(half a teaspoon will do), a grinding of pepper, depending on how strong you like it of course and a half a teaspoon of honey will do. Just like that, there is a health party going into your body!
May I add to this, seeing as I did mention the not so good for you skin products that inflame the muscles that lie beneath our porcelain facial features, this trilogy, pepper, Turmeric, and honey may just replace your monthly botox injection and ‘its just laugh lines‘ discussions…
Even though multi-tasking has been taken to task [aka, BE PRESENT] when it comes to improving your body functioning, improving fat burning and adding great health into the mix, these combos and their multi-tasking abilities brings a smile to my face!
You have done the work the diet has gone fantastically well… AND you WANT to keep that body perfect! After all, no diet is easy and you HAVE done everything you need to do to get to this point. RIGHT?
If you feel the breathing down your neck don’t be alarmed… that is the immediate population in your 10km radius WAITING with bated breath for you to get FAT again… Sorry to say, that is EXACTLY what society expects based on the 90 – 95% failure rate, which of course DIETS get the blame for.
Let us start at the very beginning, the time before ‘the diet‘ even started, when hope for fatloss was still a glimmer in your eye, AND before you got fat AGAIN:
A) You pick a diet – most likely based on a friend’s recommendation, I mean, she lost like 15kgs!! Never mind the fact that you hate shakes… you WILL stick to it and do the same damage to the hips as she did…
B) Massive success – you managed to force your body into submission, you too are now down 15kgs and you and your BFF are now bigger and better BFF’S. You have after all SUFFERED through something apparently life-changing !
C) CELEBRATION TIME! Off diet and freedom comes in the form of a double Mocha and Key lime pie with said BFF. After all, a reward IS REQUIRED.
Fast forward a month or so…
D) Clothes have shrunk – are the tumble dryer settings correct? Let me check my weight… “oh dear… seems like that continual double Mocha is taking effect on my hips… Bloody diet, NOTHING WORKS!!!!*%”@#!“
E) The Audience…(AKA everyone in 10km radius) Now there are serious stares from all and they are breathing down your neck in anticipation, waiting, I dare say to see you gain back all 15kgs AGAIN. As you start swelling, you politely inform all the vultures that “IT IS THE DIETS FAULT”, of course, it is??!
NO… it is NOT the diets fault.
Let me say that again.
NO, SAD TO SAY, IT IS NOT THE DIETS FAULT.
So here is the thing, (yes, that THING!) we live in a society where we take pills to treat the symptom, not the cause, we expect immediate gratification and want the latest Lamborghini AND be CEO by 25 years of age latest, or you are roadkill for life. IF that does not happen then it is SOMEONE’s FAULT SOMEWHERE. Someone (or some childhood trauma) is ALWAYS to blame.
I read the holier than thou blog posts spewing out one by one how diets fail EVERYBODY MISERABLY. Get real. Hows about; COCA-COLA and MAC DONALDS fail us miserably, how about; we don’t WANT to think anymore and make logical deductions and reasonings about what we shovel into our bodies?
I watch obesity rising, cancer proliferating, and health and wellness gurus popping up all over the place to stake their claim in the obesity epidemic with the front wingers shouting DIETS DON’T WORK. Get real.
Firstly, if you are sensible you NEVER chose a diet with a shelf life, you NEVER chose a diet that relies on your starvation or one which has zero balance, that has more chemicals than the atomic bomb, to force your body into submission. NO. You are an intelligent logical human being, you take the highest regard of your wellbeing and decide you would like to live long enough to spend time with your grandchildren and not necessarily be thin AND dead. You chose your diet based on your lifestyle and what you can live with easily for the rest of your life without massive sugar and hormonal spikes coming as added benefits. YES?
HELL NO. NO…. its all about instant gratification. “Like yesterday, I was already thin, even though I only started the diet today. AMAZING RIGHT?“
How to maintain once you have removed the weight is easy… it starts BEFORE you have even started dieting!!!!
PICK THE RIGHT DIET FOR YOU!
If you chose correctly based on a couple of vital factors chances are your body will be satisfied even after you are OFF diet and you will NOT gain the weight back. The success or failure of a diet post-diet sits entirely on YOUR CHOICE OF DIET…
EXTREME DOWN = EXTREME UP
Ever ridden a bicycle up a hill? Ever freewheeled down the other side to hit a hill again and come to a full stop unless YOU PEDDLED? Well, kinda works the same with a diet. If you are buying into the extreme forcefulness of some whacked out diet, pushing your body to the limit, expect it to retaliate when done. There is ALWAYS an uphill.
ON DIET – OFF DIET
Sound familiar, people diet for the perfect figure and once that point has been achieved they vow to NEVER go back to ‘that’. Oh boy. I have been there AND got a T-shirt. There is a tendency to turn from an easy over hermit, into a ‘party-loving celebrating I can do anything superhero’ for a short while as your body realizes it has energy and mobility.
With that goes a couple of tequilas and a birthday cake or 2. Having an off diet mentality will assist your muffin tops coming back in no time. Once you break your virginity in the dietary community there is NO TURNING BACK. Which, is a bad thing IF you decided to do shakes for breakfast lunch and supper of course, but, if you decided, intelligently speaking of course, to start by having salads instead of big Macs, and saying no to sweetener, drinking more water, you know, logical things like that, THEN, chances are you can keep that body beautiful figure and NOT gain the weight back again.
ME LOOSE… NOT A CHANCE!
Let us talk terminology. What happened to you as a child when you LOST ANYTHING? In my day we had a tongue lashing and an arse whipping and that is putting it politely. Even today, my children know, they lose it, THEY replace it. Nobody EVER, like EVER wants to lose anything, wallet, keys, boyfriend??! So why on our little blue planet called Earth would we want to lose weight?!???
Even if we lost it we will make damn sure we find it again! If you want to maintain the body you managed to get by being INTELLIGENT, then make sure you don’t tell your brain you losing the weight. Getting rid of it for sure. Losing it, no chance! Our subconscious works 24/7 to FIND answers, and the word losing triggers 20, 30, 40 or 50 years of programming that says if you lose that you are in deep sh*T! So, time to ‘burn fat‘, ‘get rid of unhealthy fat‘, even ‘get down to my best size’ is better. But losing is only going to lead you right back to gaining. Let me not even start with the word WEIGHT. Please, think about that one.
WHY ON EARTH WOULD I LOVE THE NEW ME?
You looking amazing, your diet has helped you develop new healthier habits and you are getting wolf whistles purely by walking down the street. This is something you NOT used to. Self-esteem steps in and rains on your parade poops on your head, or rather in it. You cannot possibly get this type of attention? Someone says “Jane, you look smashing, wow!!?? What have you done?” Your lagging self-esteem (woe be her, she has had a tough few years of fatdom) steps in… “This oh man it is NOTHING (REALLY!!??), I did work hard but you know, sacrifice and hard work and self-discipline (yawn……….) are ‘all’ it takes. Not much to it (let us downplay it Ms. Self-esteem, you try and eat only salads for lunch!!)” and so the conversation goes. Your subconscious (home to Ms. Self-esteem) hears how unimportant this victory was, how much hard work it was, and how irrelevant the compliment was that was given and, after shedding a humble tear, she starts working out how to avoid these awkward moments where you were not quite sure what to say. Please search on google ‘how to ACCEPT a compliment‘ so that you can KEEP AND ACCEPT the good energy that can come from it!! Eventually, the attention may get overwhelming, the boyfriend may even get a bit jealous and then to safeguard yourself and keep your rising self-esteem at bay, you start eating again… a lot.
Embrace the compliments, learn how to welcome friendly self-esteem within and nurture her, give that girl a coffee! Say to her “MAKE ME MARVELOUS” and then to yourself, “I am EVERYTHING AND MORE!”. Want to maintain that body, start by LOVING YOURSELF FIRST!
LETS TALK ABOUT STREEETTTTCHHHHH BABY…
The only stretch ANYTHING you should have after a diet is your morning yawn as you wake up to get out of bed. If there was a way that sweatpants could be non-stretch and still work, it would literally cause the diet industry billions to be halved. The problem with stretch is this, you can keep expanding your waistline and be completely unaware, then start passing the joke around that there are gremlins in your cupboard making your clothes smaller, BLOODY DIET ALWAYS FAILS!!! Eventually, the stretch is replaced by baggy and everyone applauds as you take on the next diet to once again get rid of the 15kgs. Let me add to this… THROW THE BIG STUFF INTO THE CHARITY BIN! IT DON’T FIT YOU ANY MORE. And chances are if it is in your cupboard you may very well grow INTO IT again! Burn the ships!
WHAT YOU BUY, YOU EAT, YES?
Sounds completely logical right? Well, so I thought until client after client after client blames the biscuit they continuously had after supper for not maintaining?! REALLY?! Need I say more. Are we being held hostage by a sprinkled carb? REALLY… who bought it. And please…. your children DON’T NEED IT TO SURVIVE!!!!!
IF YOU KEEP EATING EVEN AFTER YOU ARE FULL, CHANCES ARE THE CLAPPING YOU HEAR WILL BE YOUR THIGHS.
Is this the diets fault too? Or is it possibly the appetite suppressants taken to numb (dumb) your hunger signals down??? Where the effort and possible use of will power to say no thank you not now, was just too much (again, must be the diets fault there too?). Do we realize that ALL FOOD and MORE will be there forever and we don’t need to say yes all the time and every time? So, let’s say you got through your diet at age 45 and you are looking like da bomb, that type of cheesecake will be available to you for another 30 years at least!
Allow your body to ‘settle into’ a new weight category before you start throwing heavy punches (into your mouth). Each person has that ‘almost’ perfect set point of weight and energy use… over time we stuff that equilibrium up completely and your body ends up between a rock and a hard place… hormones out of wack, gut flora none existent and metabolism shouting “I give UP!!!”. So, if you are one of the fortunate few that found a diet that is correct for you individually (look, there are 5 billion results on Google I am sure you can find ONE that works for your ‘type’) and you decided to make use of my intelligent MMM System to ensure your success, then ALLOW your body to settle and acquaint itself to a less hefty you BEFORE relinquishing your daily exercise routine for muffins with Martha at Starbucks.
Give yourself and the intelligently chosen diet some settlement time. Allow yourself to integrate your diet with reasonable inclusions so that you can slowly recalibrate your metabolism to suit your lifestyle. It comes down to this, if chosen well, ANY diet will be successful, based on the fact that it is backed by some sort of successful science and logic. ANY diet will assist in you maintaining properly if you are mindfully refeeding yourself into the general swing of your lifestyle. You WILL keep the weight OFF if you follow a plan of implementation for your diet from BEFORE your start to months after you complete. No ‘here today, gone tomorrow‘ classics. You WILL keep it off if you educate yourself along the way about good healthy choices and the food you are consuming and like to consume, chances are you will say a BIG NO THANK YOU to a MAC DONALDS after you are done with your diet.
Personally, I know, diets work. If the fat doesn’t stay off, reasons are, you only gain that which you lost and more based on poor diet choice and sweet bugger all awareness and mindfulness once you ‘OFF DIET‘. Keep in mind that if you chose an averagely good science-based diet, you STILL lose muscle, which in turn affects your Basal Metabolic Rate which in turn affects your Metabolism resulting in slow conversion of fat to energy and more storage (less muscle mass, less fat burning) so you will HAVE to be MORE VIGILANT about what you put into your body regardless of how good the diet is. Once you have walked the diet gangplank embrace the fact that you have messed with ‘PERFECT‘ created by ‘PERFECT‘. That is O.K. if and only if you TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR CHOICES and become mindful of how you live thereafter.
Now some of us, (yup, I include myself) had a tendency to ignore nutrition, health, exercise, wellness, calorie load, metabolism – well, anything to do with living well and have taken on our own fair share of diets. We, (woe us) will need to put on our big girl panties and realize our choices maketh us. Vigilance on what we eat HAS to be part of life as most likely our metabolism is shot, muscle mass has been depleted, enzymes are fighting for survival and our microbiome thinks it’s Vegas… Yup. It ain’t the DIETS FAULT.
Aging can be daunting, especially when at age 18 most think that 40-year-olds are making exit plans from THIS LIFE…
This was me, I really thought my parents were on the verge of senior citizen classification when they hit 40… why though. I have spent some time thinking about this and realized that the word OLD is attached by default to DECREPIT, SICKLINESS, DISEASE, LACK LUSTRE, WRINKLES, oh my word I could go on and on… and that attachment is what society has ingrained in us from the moment we were taught to speak.
Then we go through life, foot on the pedal to get to our 20’s, by the time we get there we hit the handbrake and say “lordy, can we just stay here!??“. So we journey through life, slightly obsessed that age is not manifesting fast enough and then too fast, kinda like hitting the brake and petrol at the same time!
Well, I was fortunate enough to pick up a gem of a book on aging, may I say, a different take. Written many years back by a VERY young-looking (hehehehe) Deepak Chopra. The book was Ageless Body, Timeless Mind and I think I picked it up due to being attracted to the ageless body part of the title, now that would appeal to just about anyone, young or old.
Something which stuck in my mind (and there is plenty that can from this gem!!!) was the following:
“Only the present moment exists; past and future are mental projections. If you can free yourself of these projections, trying neither to relive the past nor to control the future, a space is opened for a completely new experience – the experience of ageless body and timeless mind.”
YES… YESSSSSS… YESSSSSSSSSSSS!
I have always said that I have a desire for only ONE SUPERPOWER… that of stretching time. With this in my mind, I can now be that superhero with zero sense of goofiness.
Back to the seriousness of this. I would like to let all Millenials know that life does not end at 30, or 40, or 60 for that matter. I families worried about the fact that 28-year-olds don’t have their life sorted out and I immediately wonder if THEY DO??? I ALSO see 18-year-olds thinking they DONT NEED to sort their life out and prefer the idea of wandering around like a lost stinky in the perfume factory. Where is the balance? Well simply put, life is not about growing UP, rather moving FORWARD. We are, after all, energy beings, and if we are not on the go, chanced are we are in reverse.
There seems to be the consensus that the Millenials seem to be a little ‘lost’ if they have not reached CEO status by 23 or at a push for the slow ones at 28, what so they can spend their 30’s and 40’s nose to the grindstone missing out on life? Possibly even in jobs which they THOUGHT they loved, doing what they ASSUMED would be significant. Now yes… before I look like a sour ‘old’ [sic] bag who is giving Millenials a free pass, I would like to come to my defense… When we embrace the present, without worry about the future, and regrets about the past, chances are we will be able to go healthily (no ulcers or clapped-out thyroid and liver to deal with) into the future. I am not saying do NOTHING. But DO do something which encompasses YOUR BLISS!
If we spent our time pursuing bliss for ourselves, do you think we would be worried about age? And do you think maybe just maybe out gratifying existence would most likely lead to more chance of fantastic health? In fact, we may look FAR YOUNGER than any person sitting for 16 hours a day in a bank. YES, we all need jobs, I ain’t bashing that. I AM BASHING the notion that we just need to earn money. What we NEED is to find our bliss FIRST and then money WILL be made, hands over fist – IF that is your thing.
So, if by chance, you feel you are on the back foot, or age is scaring the living life out of you, fear not, there are many that lived to ripe old ages, those who only made their millions at 70, published a book, became a doctor… learn to stretch time, be present, embrace the fact that a life lived well is better than not having lived at all.
Close the door on aging, in today’s world it is close to a myth if you pay attention to loving yourself, forgiving daily, sharing gratitude and random acts of kindness, and most of all, FINDING and LIVING YOUR BLISS.
Possibly the toughest, yet worthiest of all thoughts and/or actions you can perform, forgiveness; there is no greater source of self-preservation (besides maybe breathing).
Have you ever said or thought “I will never forgive you!“? Have you ever thought what the impact of that is on YOU physically, mentally and emotionally? We live in a world of never forgive, never forget and only those with who truly realize the impact of the impasse realize that this is not the wisest route to follow. No forgiveness is a bitter poison that gets dished for a guest, but at the end of the day, only gets consumed by you. Cut the strings, BURN THE SHIPS, do not be the puppet in anybody’s show. FORGIVE AND LET GO.
It was Jim Rohn who said that the winds of change blow on all of us, it is how we set our sails that determine OUR outcome. The relevance of this is far-reaching, we tend to gauge our success by the external influences that impact us and ‘force’ us to take to a certain direction, if we comply we would surely reach success in finances, relationships and health? Not necessarily, only by implementing ‘I am the Captain of my own ship‘ do we breed an internal compass point that guides us to success.
How does FORGIVENESS impact us? Or rather, how does lack of forgiveness impact us?
LET US DIG DEEP
Historically, Émile Coué, the French mind theorist instigated autosuggestion of ‘day by day in every way…’ to have an impact on a person living positively. The basics of this were that you believe this mentally and emotionally, thus allowing your subconscious to take on agreement to the suggestions over time, slowly your perceptions of the world around you and of course yourself as well starts to transform.
Now let us take it a step further, Mitch Horowitz summed it up beautifully in his book ‘” target=”_blank”>The Miracle Club‘ where he discusses the Golden Rule, ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you‘, this, the Golden Rule, came about in the late seventeenth-century England. He quotes a detailed section from Napoleon Hill’s brilliant book, The Miracle Club” target=”_blank” rel=”noreferrer noopener” aria-label=”Law of Success (opens in a new tab)”>Law of Success, that relates to this accepted ‘Rule’, I will quote the same section to avoid misunderstanding of any sort. This will ensure clarity on the impact of a lack of forgiveness.
Now, I am one of those individuals that have always embraced forgiveness, but I am aware of some who hold tightly to the unforgivenesses false feel of justice and on reading this, my veins ran cold based on the understanding of its validity in life as we know it. This passage particularly made me pause and reflect for quite some time…
““Your thoughts of others are registered in your subconscious mind through the principle of autosuggestion,” Hill wrote, “thereby building your own character in exact duplicate.” Hence: “You must ‘think of others as you wish them to think of you.’ The law upon which the Golden Rule is based begins affecting you, for good or evil, the moment you release a thought.” It is worth considering Hill’s point of view at length: “If all your acts toward others, and even your thoughts of others, are registered in your subconscious mind, through the principle of autosuggestion, thereby building your own character in exact duplicate of your thoughts and acts, can you not see how important it is to guard those acts and thoughts? We are now in the very heart of the real reason for doing unto others as we would have them do unto us, for it is obvious that whatever we do unto others we do unto ourselves. Stated in another way, every act and every thought you release modifies your own character in exact conformity with the nature of the act or thought, and your character is a sort of center of magnetic attraction, which attracts to you the people and conditions that harmonize with it. You cannot indulge in an act toward another person without having first created the nature of that act in your own thought, and you cannot release a thought without planting the sum and substance and nature of it in your own subconscious mind, there to become a part and parcel of your own character. Grasp this simple principle and you will understand why you cannot afford to hate or envy another person. You will also understand why you cannot afford to strike back, in kind, at those who do you an injustice. Likewise, you will understand the injunction, “Return good for evil.”“
Euuuowch… Mitch Horowitz in his BRILLIANTLY written book follows up with this to close this debate;
“You become what you do not forgive.”
For the first time in my life, I looked past my already clear understanding of what unforgiveness can do to health, how it can break you down mentally by clinging on to it, here we see how we literally are CREATING ourselves in like image of our unforgiven item by absorption.
HOW IS FORGIVENESS GOOD FOR YOU AND YOUR HEALTH?
YOU WILL LIVE LONGER AND HAVE A STRONG IMMUNITY
Yup, you heard right, if you love your life and have a desire to live to at least 100 years of age, start actively forgiving, not just those who may have done you harm but yourself too! Think about this, the poison chalice of unforgiveness being held by you is BEING HELD BY YOU… Now you may say… but I don’t forgive that event/person/process for they do NOT deserve forgiveness then keep this in mind;
LIFE does not happen TO YOU, it DOES happen FOR YOU… practice forgiveness, and move forward.
As a matter of scientific interest, let us have a look at a Japanese author and pseudoscientist, Dr Emoto, who said that human consciousness has an effect on the molecular structure of water – this is relevant based on the fact that WE ARE 70% water, therefore if we keep negative non-forgiving thoughts we are messing with the building blocks of our bodies. Emoto’s work was based on pseudoscientific hypotheses that water could react to positive thoughts and words. Our cells primary content is water, we are made up of millions of cells and our immunity needs positively functioning cells. Yes, we impact those around us, whether positive or negative, our energy does transfer to those around us AND we slowly impact our length of life.
Now there may be a strong argument that some of us do know some miserable characters who are reaching ripe old ages, that may be, but they are miserable and have lived miserable lives for a reason…
YOUR ADRENAL GLAND WILL BREATH A SIGH OF RELIEVE
Your adrenal gland deals with stress, any anger held without release promotes and motivates fight or flight in your body which in turn activates your adrenal gland. This affects your blood pressure and naturally your heart rate. The minute you forgive, the burden is removed off your shoulders, note how you CAN BREATH EASY when you hand it over and let it go!
YOUR HEART WILL HUG YOU
The process of holding on to anger and never practicing forgiveness only leads to stress and anxiety, as I said above, your blood pressure increases, your heart HAS TO WORK HARDER, after all, it loves you and must make sure you are HAPPY. If you forgive others AND yourself your heart feels the love, your soul can peacefully smile. The only one that may be impacted is your resident ego.
There is such power in forgiveness when it comes to mental health not just your own but again, those around you. You may have heard of:
“I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you“
Officially known as Ho’oponopono, this was developed by the Hawaiian therapist Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, he used this prayerful mantra to cure an entire ward of criminally insane patients. This was done without ever meeting any of them or spending a moment in the same room. He reviewed each of the patients’ files, and then he healed them by healing himself using the statement above.
Using a forgiveness statement like this can be life-changing, don’t say it just once, try and say it over and over for a few minutes on end and feel positive energy lift within. The detail on Ho’oponopono will be shared in a blog post shortly.
Another way of dealing with forgiveness are the use of subliminals. Personally I have worked with these and forever will, not only are they enjoyable back ground music but I find them quite impactful. Especially if you are maybe finding it hard to forgive, or if you try to forgive and your gut says NO WAY, then working with subliminal input can be extremely helpful. I am suggesting one that is specifically for forgiveness. Do have a look at the wording they use to ensure it works for you.
Basically, forgiveness can: Lead to a stronger immune system Result in good heart health Improve mental health Result in reduced anxiety and stress It can lower blood pressure Lead to healthier relationships Result in fewer depression symptoms And my favorite, improved self-esteem
HOW DO I FORGIVE THAT *** ???
This is a journey worth taking, it moves you from holding on to suffering, anger, hurt, rejection to a place that allows you to have an improved life. I am certain that there are serious deeds in need of forgiveness in peoples lives, and some will say, how do you even get to that place of forgiveness? I would like to answer with a question, and it may seem oversimplified, but do ponder for a moment;
How does holding on to all of that pain serve you?
I am of the realization that NOTHING I held on to, thinking that it would serve me in some way, actually did.
Take careful small steps forward, decide to truly release yourself and the culprit from that negative energy. Start small, it may have been someone who cut you off in traffic, start there. Every day grow in your ability of forgiveness. If you need support, get it!
Now comes the tough part, remember I mentioned, life happens for you, not to you? Move from the zone of the victim into being the hero of your own story – then live the newly improved revised story. BURN THE SHIPS! Decide not to revisit or return to those emotions that never served you in the first place.
AFRAID OF FORGIVENESS?
Many people are afraid of the word ‘forgive’, they think that after that they and the culprit would need to be best buds. Not so, the word forgive means to hand it over, to let go of those feelings, to create a void which could be filled with only positive feelings if we allow it. In FACT… the joy of forgiveness is forever giving, frequently we find ourselves stuck in finances, relationships or health issues, with a little investigation and mindfulness, we may find we ONLY NEED TO FORGIVE a situation or a person closely linked to the situation. It is at this time I work with ‘I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I LOVE YOU‘ and I say it with emotional DEPTH and ENTHUSIASM.
FORGIVENESS IN ACTION
I came across an extremely helpful understanding of how to go about forgiveness including a decree to use in speaking forgiveness in my life. The helpful information I came across was shared by Catherine Ponder, it is simple and meaningful.
When forgiving, “sit for half an hour every day and mentally forgive every one that you are out of harmony with, feel badly toward or are concerned about. If you have accused anyone of injustice, if you have discussed anyone unkindly, if you have criticized or gossiped about anyone… mentally ask their forgiveness. Subconsciously, they will respond. In like manner, if you have accused yourself of failure or mistakes, forgive yourself. ”
She explains that when we hold resentment towards a situation or person/s, we are bound to that person/s or condition by “an emotional link that is stronger than steel. The practice of forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and be free“. It makes sense, think about when you hold on to resentment, the mood that goes with it, IT IS HEAVY?!
By emotionally releasing the situation or condition we need to keep in mind that we “never lose anything that still belongs to you by divine right, through the act of emotional release. Instead, you make way for your good to manifest in grander ways than ever before.” That is, we create a vacuum, a void, for something greater and better in our lives.
To finish this off, i have included the following, a decree I make use of as a FORGIVENESS AFFIRMATION (reference to Catherine Ponder number of books):
“All that has offended me, I forgive, Within and without, I forgive, Things past, things present and things future, I forgive, I forgive positively everyone and everything that could possibly need forgiveness of the past or present, I forgive absolutely everyone, They are free now and I am free too. All things are cleared up between us now and forever. I am in right relationships with all people and all situations now. I fully and freely forgive you. I lose you and let you go to your good quickly and in peace. All is cleared up between us now and forever. Just as you fully and freely forgive me, lose me and let me go to my good quickly and in peace. All is cleared up between us now and forever. I forgive myself.“
Horowitz, Mitch. The Law of Success” target=”_blank” rel=”noreferrer noopener” aria-label=”The Miracle Club (opens in a new tab)”>The Miracle Club: How Thoughts Become Reality (pp. 86-87). Inner Traditions/Bear & Company. Kindle Edition.
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