Everybody knows we have the same amount of ‘human time’ and it is truly WHAT we do with our equal share of time that makes all the difference… but what could happen if we could STRETCH TIME?
Ever found yourself standing still and wishing, pleading or begging for time to stand still? Ever wondered “where has the time gone?” Or started reminiscing with a friend about days and years gone by and the eventual utterance of “my word how the world has changed” when we discuss that our children now use Google instead of Encyclopedia Britannica’s full version on the bookshelves at Grannys house.
“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.”
― Mother Theresa
Now you may be asking what has time to do with this blog regarding healthy living, well, if health is the new wealth, then we can safely say that time becomes pretty damn important in the equation, for without health, you have ZERO TIME. Personally, I have encountered many people who are wealthy beyond comprehension only to find them miserable and depressed, a life lived chasing a good retirement [is there such a thing?] and a little house by the sea… Only to get to 50 odd and start having health challenges that shatter firstly their retirement planned date [of course our medical profession like putting a time limit on our walk on the planet once the health challenge rears its ugly head] and secondly on doctors advice maybe settling at the coast is not a great plan for their condition having to be close to the health care services ‘just in case…‘
At around about this point of life, time kinda collapses, it implodes on us and all of a sudden we start wishing for more time. Sound familiar? I am almost certain it does. And EVERYBODY has heard this same story being told by their parents and their parent’s parents at some stage sitting around a dinner table at Christmas time. So why is it that we keep repeating the same old stories over and over again?
Ahhhhh, this is where we learn to stretch time. Where we learn to not only get healthy but live to 100 feeling bloody marvelous! I find that there is a [for me, a redundant] thought process circulating, that once you hit your 40’s or 50’s you are on the runway to take off, never to return of course [Do you realize that you still have 40 to 50 years left??!]. When and where did that happen? I realize that in my younger days I DID see my parents getting to 40 and 50 and acting old but the hardship of life was a little bit more intense then, than it is now… I mean, can you imagine what shopping was like in their day? They had to get into their car, drive to 10 different places [raising their blood pressure at the bad drivers along the way] to get their groceries and take 5 hours doing that! [leaving less time for family and work be that may]. Now with a click of my mouse button, instantly I find what I need within 30min and it gets delivered the same day or within 48 hours. We don’t even realize that we ALL HAVE A SUPERPOWER and it is getting stronger every day. It is not that we are unable to stretch time, it is that we are not consciously aware of the fact that WE CAN and ALREADY ARE STRETCHING TIME.
We have all seen the equation of a week that has 168 hours, if we spend a third sleeping [8 hours an evening for the lucky sods out there that get this right] leaving us with 112 hours for the week, of which another third is left for working and lets for good measure add at least 4 hours to the 8 hours of work – there are some brave characters who’s bosses STILL FIND IT NECESSARY for them to get into their car to go to work [yes, I know, we still need to get into cars for work, I am just having a dig at the bosses who most likely finished school in the ’80s if they still feel the need to babysit the workers] which leaves us with 28 hours to do EXACTLY what we would like to do in the form of family time, recreation, etc. Ohhhhhhweeee best you love your job if you are donating roughly 50% of your time to it and only 28 hours to living life. Now, of course, this equation can be molded and plied according to your whims but the fact is, we all have the same 168 hours.
Now a skill WE need to develop is HOW we use the 168 hours, please note that this is NOT a time management course, there is no such thing as time management unless you, like God, are able to breathe out stars and create planets of course. It is self-management that becomes evident as a skill required for stretching time. We need to add to ourselves, an awareness, a consciousness of what is happening in our world around us and embrace the fact that EVERYTHING is faster, more IMMEDIATE, instant in gratification based on the technology that exists. The minute we do that, the minute we become aware of our friend, TECHNOLOGY we claim our SUPERPOWER. With that comes a hoard of benefits. YES, YOUR HEALTH IMPROVES… if you ALLOW IT TO. You see, what technology does is it allows us NOT to get stuck in the ‘IMPOSSIBLE CLUB‘ the ‘IT CANNOT BE DONE‘ thought process, basically the negative space we find ourselves in if what we plan does not go our way. Back then, [those remember when days] we got stuck based on lack of information, lack of methodology on how to do this or that, now, we Google, and instantly the problem gets solved or eased just a little bit. Our stress levels remain intact and we go about our doings without a bat of an eyelid. This then has an impact on our health as in essence our heart beats a little easier, and our adrenal gland remains a little calmer, albeit we live a little longer. YES... We STRETCH TIME.
The second skill we need to develop as a SUPERHERO of time stretching is PRESENCE. This is a MASTERY skill and takes time to develop, you first of all need to be aware of your ability to stretch time and then implement it. This is where SELF-MANAGEMENT is key. We spend ‘time’ dwelling in the past when all we have is the present, generally, it has been shown that those that hunker in memories [basically STUCK in the past] have a higher incidence of depression. Now yes, it is fun to remember what we did as a youngster but if for some reason your current circumstances are not too flowery we have the tendency to WISH for better days as we had before, or we remember all the challenges we went through and question why we are still in the ‘same place’ [which of course we are not]. The SELF MANAGEMENT bit comes to play, we need to realize that EVERYTHING that happened before is firstly HISTORY, and secondly that by bringing it up over and over we are perpetuating your HISTORY into YOUR FUTURE by focussing on it in the present [One of the laws of mind is ‘what you focus on grows’ so chose your thoughts and memories wisely or that not so Pleasantville past comes rearing its head in your present and future…] and finally, if we realize that in effect history and life before happened FOR US to grow and develop into where we are today we can shake off the VICTIM mentality.
Life after all never happens ‘to us’ but rather ‘for us’.
In an instant, our past becomes a fantastical story where we play the character who ‘lets it GO’ to focus on their life journey ahead.
Now we get to dwelling in the possibilities of the FUTURE, either with excitement and enthusiasm or fear and dread – I am hoping it will be the aforementioned of course. Studies have shown that this focus on the future may lead to increased worry and anxiety, we all know the negative effects of anxiety on our health. So how do we stretch time in this scenario? Ever heard the statement that 99% of what we worry about never happens? If you find yourself stressing about the future, be aware of the fact that only what you do in the PRESENT will resolve the future. Running around in circles in the present stressing about tomorrows leads to you MISSING your present and that being said, possibly your family and loved ones missing your presence.
In the self-development world [yes, I think that is a world completely separate from planet earth at times] the focus is on SMART GOALS and future promises, but if our current state of affairs and presence of mind is lacking, chances are we are chasing goals disjointed from where we are CURRENTLY. We end up, as I said before, at 50 or 60 years of age, still chasing a SMART GOAL never being present for a CURRENT GOAL, and by not being present for the current goal OUR FUTURE goals are left unmet.
This becomes crucial in any weight management program, one of the factors I focus on in my course, Coach : no diet is to eliminate that magical scale goal and to rather focus on how you would feel and the improved health you will experience. For it is that goal that keeps us imprisoned in low to NO self-esteem. As human beings we need to be growing, changing, transforming, evolving, but to enable that we firstly need to be present, for only in being present and aware of where we are, can we move forward to our tomorrows.
If every minute of every day we soaked up all experiences, taste, smell, touch, hear, see, feel our way through each of those minutes, chances are we would succeed at living a prosperous, fulfilled, time-stretching life. We would with these heightened senses and experiences learn to stretch time by being and showing gratitude, by easily and effortlessly performing random acts of kindness [what goes around comes around…]. By being truly present [yes, put the phone down] we LIVE LONGER. We experience more because we are present to experience MORE.
So, next ‘time’ you find your thoughts careening into your tomorrows as you sit with your family at dinner time today, PAUSE, redirect your focus to your family and a good meal and STRETCH TIME.
As WOMAN DAY has just come to an end in our beautiful country South Africa, it seemed only apt to highlight these powerful beings and celebrate those who have learned to love themselves, and those who are still learning this fine and important art. YES, YOU are everything and more.
Learning to love YOU
I am driven to write this seemingly obvious blog, not so much about women and their success in life but rather a celebration for the women out there that are lost in their ‘roles’ of womanhood. Now, possibly this could be a blog about men too, for I do not feel that what I am about to write is specifically for women only, but it was highlighted in my mind at this time of year with it being Women’s month.
Personally, I feel that we are born with a knowingness of why we are here. My nature as it is, is a seeker, I am consistently seeking to understand what and why we live as we do and how we do what we do. I grew up in a staunch, STRICT home, asking no questions and telling no lies, but my Father simultaneously expected us to have an extremely open mind. This confused me and slowly I developed a silent inspired dissatisfaction, knowing that life is more than JUST growing old, consistently looking forward to holidays. I could ashamedly say I spent close on 40 odd years of my life keeping my opinion to myself once too often, thinking that this was the polite thing to do. With this in mind, I was fortunate enough to read a meaningful discussion, which was profound in every possible way, it led me to a greater understanding of how wrong I was about keeping my opinion to myself, it made me understand that finding my voice was not enough, USING IT was where the magic was. Part of the discussion I read left its mark forever on my soul, my interpretation was truly a light bulb, slap-my-forehead, tears to my eyes situation, simple as it may seem, it was massive to me; what I understood was as follows – we as humans are a creative expression on earth – I could think of nothing more beautiful and for an instant EVERYTHING STOOD STILL – I could literally, physically feel my shoulders relax.
If I embrace that I am a creative expression on this planet, it kinda opens up many pleasurable doors and shuts a couple of unwanted ones instantly.
Really, think about the simplicity of this statement.
‘I AMa creative expression‘ – anyone
Oh, my word, I can think of the realists reading this and plutzing around about now! [I still love you by the way as it takes all types to make the world go round] – yes, many would say “nothing is that simple!!”, I ask, “WHY NOT?“. And for those that do say that nothing is that simple, I challenge you, truly, how SATISFIED are you? How at ease are you? How much love do you feel within, not for someone close to you but for YOUR SOUL and where you are in life WITHOUT the title? I have had the honor and privilege of meeting and working with people, specifically woman who once stripped of the title of Mom, wife, CEO, sister, daughter, boss-babe, they then question “WHAT then?” and for that reason I say, PLEASE... pull it back, reflect on your inner soul, own your space, your fingerprint, your inner core, STOP looking for YOUR shortcomings, mistakes, inadequacies, RATHER celebrate yourself as a perfect creative expression. You see, once you do this, adding the ‘title’ of Mom, wife or Boss-babe does become a delightful frill, something beautiful and meaningful.
If however we do not know of our own beauty within, our own creative expression as souls on this planet, then no matter what frill we add, when it disappears, as it can, [my label/frill as Wife disappeared instantly one miserable day and I was left seemingly soulless not knowing how to identify with who and what I am], we flounder not necessarily knowing ‘where to from here’. I am fortunate for having marvelous influences in my life after my divorce, not only for some amazing men and women who were fantastic mentors, with who I surrounded myself with, but also what I was reading and listening to, this helped me open up the realization, acceptance, and knowingness that I could literally strip myself of every frill, title, and classification and STILL be BLOODY MARVELOUS REGARDLESS. I had reached a point of EASE INTERNALLY, my soul felt joy, a quiet peaceful humMMMMMMMMM. Let me take this time to state that by NO MEANS AM I OR WAS I in a perfect state of being, I consistently battle weight awareness, I am a single mom of 2 gorgeous children, this, of course, can come with its challenges, I am a business owner, these are the frills, BUT… WITH or WITHOUT these frills, I AM AT EASE knowing that all is and will always be GREAT. I choose that. I am and was done with self-checking, self-judgment, dis -ease within, wondering what I could do, say, be, live better… I chose ease. Maybe that is the secret to all of life, that simple statement because with it comes empowerment, with it comes removal of any possible victimhood or blame. A beautiful self-acceptance. Let me add here, this is NOT SETTLING, this is breathing, deeply, sucking in all of life and living it.
If there is one thing I would love my daughter to have on this Womens day, it is that understanding, ownership, and acceptance of self as an individual with the ability to CHOOSE. To chose life not based on the title which comes with it but rather to choose a life based on being a creative expression, for with that comes perfection, following of her bliss, and living a life of passion in a meaningful and significan way.
That being said, Women, where art thou? Be OK with being you, not just saying “I am OK with being me” but earnestly feeling marvelous with being YOU. Feeling at ease, making your choices based on YOU, and living a life with the knowledge that YOU ARE EVERYTHING AND MORE. Can you imagine waking up every day not wandering what mold you need to fit into today, yes, even if you do a 9 to 5 job or have to rush around with children, imagine KNOWING that it is ok to just be YOU? At ease and flourishing with just BEING. Knowing that every single breath, every movement, every thought, decision, and action is a perfect CREATIVE expression of YOU – and for that reason, IT IS PERFECT.
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You have done the work the diet has gone fantastically well… AND you WANT to keep that body perfect! After all, no diet is easy and you HAVE done everything you need to do to get to this point. RIGHT?
If you feel the breathing down your neck don’t be alarmed… that is the immediate population in your 10km radius WAITING with bated breath for you to get FAT again… Sorry to say, that is EXACTLY what society expects based on the 90 – 95% failure rate, which of course DIETS get the blame for.
Let us start at the very beginning, the time before ‘the diet‘ even started, when hope for fatloss was still a glimmer in your eye, AND before you got fat AGAIN:
A) You pick a diet – most likely based on a friend’s recommendation, I mean, she lost like 15kgs!! Never mind the fact that you hate shakes… you WILL stick to it and do the same damage to the hips as she did…
B) Massive success – you managed to force your body into submission, you too are now down 15kgs and you and your BFF are now bigger and better BFF’S. You have after all SUFFERED through something apparently life-changing !
C) CELEBRATION TIME! Off diet and freedom comes in the form of a double Mocha and Key lime pie with said BFF. After all, a reward IS REQUIRED.
Fast forward a month or so…
D) Clothes have shrunk – are the tumble dryer settings correct? Let me check my weight… “oh dear… seems like that continual double Mocha is taking effect on my hips… Bloody diet, NOTHING WORKS!!!!*%”@#!“
E) The Audience…(AKA everyone in 10km radius) Now there are serious stares from all and they are breathing down your neck in anticipation, waiting, I dare say to see you gain back all 15kgs AGAIN. As you start swelling, you politely inform all the vultures that “IT IS THE DIETS FAULT”, of course, it is??!
NO… it is NOT the diets fault.
Let me say that again.
NO, SAD TO SAY, IT IS NOT THE DIETS FAULT.
So here is the thing, (yes, that THING!) we live in a society where we take pills to treat the symptom, not the cause, we expect immediate gratification and want the latest Lamborghini AND be CEO by 25 years of age latest, or you are roadkill for life. IF that does not happen then it is SOMEONE’s FAULT SOMEWHERE. Someone (or some childhood trauma) is ALWAYS to blame.
I read the holier than thou blog posts spewing out one by one how diets fail EVERYBODY MISERABLY. Get real. Hows about; COCA-COLA and MAC DONALDS fail us miserably, how about; we don’t WANT to think anymore and make logical deductions and reasonings about what we shovel into our bodies?
I watch obesity rising, cancer proliferating, and health and wellness gurus popping up all over the place to stake their claim in the obesity epidemic with the front wingers shouting DIETS DON’T WORK. Get real.
Firstly, if you are sensible you NEVER chose a diet with a shelf life, you NEVER chose a diet that relies on your starvation or one which has zero balance, that has more chemicals than the atomic bomb, to force your body into submission. NO. You are an intelligent logical human being, you take the highest regard of your wellbeing and decide you would like to live long enough to spend time with your grandchildren and not necessarily be thin AND dead. You chose your diet based on your lifestyle and what you can live with easily for the rest of your life without massive sugar and hormonal spikes coming as added benefits. YES?
HELL NO. NO…. its all about instant gratification. “Like yesterday, I was already thin, even though I only started the diet today. AMAZING RIGHT?“
How to maintain once you have removed the weight is easy… it starts BEFORE you have even started dieting!!!!
PICK THE RIGHT DIET FOR YOU!
If you chose correctly based on a couple of vital factors chances are your body will be satisfied even after you are OFF diet and you will NOT gain the weight back. The success or failure of a diet post-diet sits entirely on YOUR CHOICE OF DIET…
EXTREME DOWN = EXTREME UP
Ever ridden a bicycle up a hill? Ever freewheeled down the other side to hit a hill again and come to a full stop unless YOU PEDDLED? Well, kinda works the same with a diet. If you are buying into the extreme forcefulness of some whacked out diet, pushing your body to the limit, expect it to retaliate when done. There is ALWAYS an uphill.
ON DIET – OFF DIET
Sound familiar, people diet for the perfect figure and once that point has been achieved they vow to NEVER go back to ‘that’. Oh boy. I have been there AND got a T-shirt. There is a tendency to turn from an easy over hermit, into a ‘party-loving celebrating I can do anything superhero’ for a short while as your body realizes it has energy and mobility.
With that goes a couple of tequilas and a birthday cake or 2. Having an off diet mentality will assist your muffin tops coming back in no time. Once you break your virginity in the dietary community there is NO TURNING BACK. Which, is a bad thing IF you decided to do shakes for breakfast lunch and supper of course, but, if you decided, intelligently speaking of course, to start by having salads instead of big Macs, and saying no to sweetener, drinking more water, you know, logical things like that, THEN, chances are you can keep that body beautiful figure and NOT gain the weight back again.
ME LOOSE… NOT A CHANCE!
Let us talk terminology. What happened to you as a child when you LOST ANYTHING? In my day we had a tongue lashing and an arse whipping and that is putting it politely. Even today, my children know, they lose it, THEY replace it. Nobody EVER, like EVER wants to lose anything, wallet, keys, boyfriend??! So why on our little blue planet called Earth would we want to lose weight?!???
Even if we lost it we will make damn sure we find it again! If you want to maintain the body you managed to get by being INTELLIGENT, then make sure you don’t tell your brain you losing the weight. Getting rid of it for sure. Losing it, no chance! Our subconscious works 24/7 to FIND answers, and the word losing triggers 20, 30, 40 or 50 years of programming that says if you lose that you are in deep sh*T! So, time to ‘burn fat‘, ‘get rid of unhealthy fat‘, even ‘get down to my best size’ is better. But losing is only going to lead you right back to gaining. Let me not even start with the word WEIGHT. Please, think about that one.
WHY ON EARTH WOULD I LOVE THE NEW ME?
You looking amazing, your diet has helped you develop new healthier habits and you are getting wolf whistles purely by walking down the street. This is something you NOT used to. Self-esteem steps in and rains on your parade poops on your head, or rather in it. You cannot possibly get this type of attention? Someone says “Jane, you look smashing, wow!!?? What have you done?” Your lagging self-esteem (woe be her, she has had a tough few years of fatdom) steps in… “This oh man it is NOTHING (REALLY!!??), I did work hard but you know, sacrifice and hard work and self-discipline (yawn……….) are ‘all’ it takes. Not much to it (let us downplay it Ms. Self-esteem, you try and eat only salads for lunch!!)” and so the conversation goes. Your subconscious (home to Ms. Self-esteem) hears how unimportant this victory was, how much hard work it was, and how irrelevant the compliment was that was given and, after shedding a humble tear, she starts working out how to avoid these awkward moments where you were not quite sure what to say. Please search on google ‘how to ACCEPT a compliment‘ so that you can KEEP AND ACCEPT the good energy that can come from it!! Eventually, the attention may get overwhelming, the boyfriend may even get a bit jealous and then to safeguard yourself and keep your rising self-esteem at bay, you start eating again… a lot.
Embrace the compliments, learn how to welcome friendly self-esteem within and nurture her, give that girl a coffee! Say to her “MAKE ME MARVELOUS” and then to yourself, “I am EVERYTHING AND MORE!”. Want to maintain that body, start by LOVING YOURSELF FIRST!
LETS TALK ABOUT STREEETTTTCHHHHH BABY…
The only stretch ANYTHING you should have after a diet is your morning yawn as you wake up to get out of bed. If there was a way that sweatpants could be non-stretch and still work, it would literally cause the diet industry billions to be halved. The problem with stretch is this, you can keep expanding your waistline and be completely unaware, then start passing the joke around that there are gremlins in your cupboard making your clothes smaller, BLOODY DIET ALWAYS FAILS!!! Eventually, the stretch is replaced by baggy and everyone applauds as you take on the next diet to once again get rid of the 15kgs. Let me add to this… THROW THE BIG STUFF INTO THE CHARITY BIN! IT DON’T FIT YOU ANY MORE. And chances are if it is in your cupboard you may very well grow INTO IT again! Burn the ships!
WHAT YOU BUY, YOU EAT, YES?
Sounds completely logical right? Well, so I thought until client after client after client blames the biscuit they continuously had after supper for not maintaining?! REALLY?! Need I say more. Are we being held hostage by a sprinkled carb? REALLY… who bought it. And please…. your children DON’T NEED IT TO SURVIVE!!!!!
IF YOU KEEP EATING EVEN AFTER YOU ARE FULL, CHANCES ARE THE CLAPPING YOU HEAR WILL BE YOUR THIGHS.
Is this the diets fault too? Or is it possibly the appetite suppressants taken to numb (dumb) your hunger signals down??? Where the effort and possible use of will power to say no thank you not now, was just too much (again, must be the diets fault there too?). Do we realize that ALL FOOD and MORE will be there forever and we don’t need to say yes all the time and every time? So, let’s say you got through your diet at age 45 and you are looking like da bomb, that type of cheesecake will be available to you for another 30 years at least!
Allow your body to ‘settle into’ a new weight category before you start throwing heavy punches (into your mouth). Each person has that ‘almost’ perfect set point of weight and energy use… over time we stuff that equilibrium up completely and your body ends up between a rock and a hard place… hormones out of wack, gut flora none existent and metabolism shouting “I give UP!!!”. So, if you are one of the fortunate few that found a diet that is correct for you individually (look, there are 5 billion results on Google I am sure you can find ONE that works for your ‘type’) and you decided to make use of my intelligent MMM System to ensure your success, then ALLOW your body to settle and acquaint itself to a less hefty you BEFORE relinquishing your daily exercise routine for muffins with Martha at Starbucks.
Give yourself and the intelligently chosen diet some settlement time. Allow yourself to integrate your diet with reasonable inclusions so that you can slowly recalibrate your metabolism to suit your lifestyle. It comes down to this, if chosen well, ANY diet will be successful, based on the fact that it is backed by some sort of successful science and logic. ANY diet will assist in you maintaining properly if you are mindfully refeeding yourself into the general swing of your lifestyle. You WILL keep the weight OFF if you follow a plan of implementation for your diet from BEFORE your start to months after you complete. No ‘here today, gone tomorrow‘ classics. You WILL keep it off if you educate yourself along the way about good healthy choices and the food you are consuming and like to consume, chances are you will say a BIG NO THANK YOU to a MAC DONALDS after you are done with your diet.
Personally, I know, diets work. If the fat doesn’t stay off, reasons are, you only gain that which you lost and more based on poor diet choice and sweet bugger all awareness and mindfulness once you ‘OFF DIET‘. Keep in mind that if you chose an averagely good science-based diet, you STILL lose muscle, which in turn affects your Basal Metabolic Rate which in turn affects your Metabolism resulting in slow conversion of fat to energy and more storage (less muscle mass, less fat burning) so you will HAVE to be MORE VIGILANT about what you put into your body regardless of how good the diet is. Once you have walked the diet gangplank embrace the fact that you have messed with ‘PERFECT‘ created by ‘PERFECT‘. That is O.K. if and only if you TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR CHOICES and become mindful of how you live thereafter.
Now some of us, (yup, I include myself) had a tendency to ignore nutrition, health, exercise, wellness, calorie load, metabolism – well, anything to do with living well and have taken on our own fair share of diets. We, (woe us) will need to put on our big girl panties and realize our choices maketh us. Vigilance on what we eat HAS to be part of life as most likely our metabolism is shot, muscle mass has been depleted, enzymes are fighting for survival and our microbiome thinks it’s Vegas… Yup. It ain’t the DIETS FAULT.
Aging can be daunting, especially when at age 18 most think that 40-year-olds are making exit plans from THIS LIFE…
This was me, I really thought my parents were on the verge of senior citizen classification when they hit 40… why though. I have spent some time thinking about this and realized that the word OLD is attached by default to DECREPIT, SICKLINESS, DISEASE, LACK LUSTRE, WRINKLES, oh my word I could go on and on… and that attachment is what society has ingrained in us from the moment we were taught to speak.
Then we go through life, foot on the pedal to get to our 20’s, by the time we get there we hit the handbrake and say “lordy, can we just stay here!??“. So we journey through life, slightly obsessed that age is not manifesting fast enough and then too fast, kinda like hitting the brake and petrol at the same time!
Well, I was fortunate enough to pick up a gem of a book on aging, may I say, a different take. Written many years back by a VERY young-looking (hehehehe) Deepak Chopra. The book was Ageless Body, Timeless Mind and I think I picked it up due to being attracted to the ageless body part of the title, now that would appeal to just about anyone, young or old.
Something which stuck in my mind (and there is plenty that can from this gem!!!) was the following:
“Only the present moment exists; past and future are mental projections. If you can free yourself of these projections, trying neither to relive the past nor to control the future, a space is opened for a completely new experience – the experience of ageless body and timeless mind.”
YES… YESSSSSS… YESSSSSSSSSSSS!
I have always said that I have a desire for only ONE SUPERPOWER… that of stretching time. With this in my mind, I can now be that superhero with zero sense of goofiness.
Back to the seriousness of this. I would like to let all Millenials know that life does not end at 30, or 40, or 60 for that matter. I families worried about the fact that 28-year-olds don’t have their life sorted out and I immediately wonder if THEY DO??? I ALSO see 18-year-olds thinking they DONT NEED to sort their life out and prefer the idea of wandering around like a lost stinky in the perfume factory. Where is the balance? Well simply put, life is not about growing UP, rather moving FORWARD. We are, after all, energy beings, and if we are not on the go, chanced are we are in reverse.
There seems to be the consensus that the Millenials seem to be a little ‘lost’ if they have not reached CEO status by 23 or at a push for the slow ones at 28, what so they can spend their 30’s and 40’s nose to the grindstone missing out on life? Possibly even in jobs which they THOUGHT they loved, doing what they ASSUMED would be significant. Now yes… before I look like a sour ‘old’ [sic] bag who is giving Millenials a free pass, I would like to come to my defense… When we embrace the present, without worry about the future, and regrets about the past, chances are we will be able to go healthily (no ulcers or clapped-out thyroid and liver to deal with) into the future. I am not saying do NOTHING. But DO do something which encompasses YOUR BLISS!
If we spent our time pursuing bliss for ourselves, do you think we would be worried about age? And do you think maybe just maybe out gratifying existence would most likely lead to more chance of fantastic health? In fact, we may look FAR YOUNGER than any person sitting for 16 hours a day in a bank. YES, we all need jobs, I ain’t bashing that. I AM BASHING the notion that we just need to earn money. What we NEED is to find our bliss FIRST and then money WILL be made, hands over fist – IF that is your thing.
So, if by chance, you feel you are on the back foot, or age is scaring the living life out of you, fear not, there are many that lived to ripe old ages, those who only made their millions at 70, published a book, became a doctor… learn to stretch time, be present, embrace the fact that a life lived well is better than not having lived at all.
Close the door on aging, in today’s world it is close to a myth if you pay attention to loving yourself, forgiving daily, sharing gratitude and random acts of kindness, and most of all, FINDING and LIVING YOUR BLISS.
We all know the phrase; HAPPINESS is an INSIDE job? And that phrase makes it sound simple right?
If however, you came from the era (that would be my era, like the ’80s), that required that you must “Put a smile on THAT dial!!” and “Do what needs to be done” then that inside job may not have been that easy. But, I am extremely happy to move forward with time, that being said, I wholeheartedly support the fact that HAPPINESS is an inside job.
Maybe one of my reasons for support for this is my understanding that our thoughts create things. And if we want a MISERABLE life (which some say they don’t but do try to create it by the miserable thoughts they think), all we need to do is think about hardship and lack of. But the opposite of this is true too!! AND THAT IS EXCITING! If you want an AWESOME life… well get to happy thoughts AND QUICK!
Like all things that are too good to be true in life, there is a catch… scientists at the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences have revealed that we do make our decisions have our thoughts subconsciously 6 to 7 seconds before acting them out. This is where understanding the subconscious, in my opinion, is valid to our living our life of bliss and happiness, after all if happiness is the new ROI then surely we need to have a real in-depth friendship (BFF for the younger peeps) with our subconscious mind?
LET US MAKE FRIENDS WITH OUR NEW SUREFIRE WAY TO HAPPINESS AS A ROI – OUR SUBCONSCIOUS
Every single day from the time you were born your subconscious has absorbed and integrated every parcel of information supplied by all your senses, you are truly a walking supercomputer with volumes of TB drives. To most this information is unconscious, a world away, but with exceptional hypnotherapy, you could do magically in recalling the information you wish to. And…. if that is the case, maybe you could also start influencing that information to create a happier happiness.
So why do we store all this ‘senseless‘ information? We are at heart still neanderthal, with heightened senses they did not only hunt better, but they sensed danger and were prepared for anything that came their way. It was indeed all about SURVIVAL. In my opinion, we have such a supercomputer in store as our subconscious purely to keep us safe and secure. To handle all the sensory information, to dice it up and serve it in good order for our conscious mind to ‘think‘ and know to the best of its ability, it has made the decision.
These days, living in a ‘normal’ community, we have little need to go into fight or flight action, some do, but for me, that is not a concern. So how do I make the best use of this sensory overload, how do I make my subconscious (who if you recall makes decisions before I even act on them) work FOR ME? How do I ensure that my thoughts are happiest, that I indeed have a maximum ROI?
7 WAYS TO HAPPIEST HAPPY ROI AND A NEW BFF.
This is a starting point for sure. Now, generally speaking, I do find some
affirmations make my conscious mind go
“whahaahahahahahah NOOOOO WAYYYYYY!!!!!!”
so picking these beauties are important. One of my favorite way of handling affirmations was promoted by Paula Llanguth Ryan, she works by pre wording the sentence with “I see myself…“. This I found extremely powerful, sometimes what we want seems so far off that it is easier to believe it if you see yourself with it. An example would be a normal affirmation is:
“I am a perfect size and full of health and vibrancy.”
“I see myself at a perfect size and full of health and vibrancy.“
If you are looking for affirmations, feel free to check out my Pinterest link for that – then edit the affirmations by adding “I see myself…”
My all-time favorite. This is an undercover affirmation jam-packed with positive emotions. If we find something new DAILY to be grateful for chances are we will start noticing a shift in our lives. I prefer not to keep these to myself. I share my gratitudes, a journal is NOT ENOUGH. VERBALISE IT! SAY IT OUT LOUD WITH ENTHUSIASM to your friends family and loved ones. Start a gratitude group, hearing others gratitude adds to your world, trust me. Get your children involved, the sooner the better. Mine do 3 gratitudes on the way to school EVERY day…
The universe loves a grateful heart and will send you a TON more to be grateful for… Do you see, HAPPINESS IS GOING UP!
3. READ RIGHT
I watch daily as people scrutinize what children are watching on TV, my greatest concern is our children seem to have lost the art of reading. And, reading great books at that. I am beyond excitement at the thought that I can get an entire lifetime of one person’s thoughts between 2 covers…
The average person reads 2 to 4 books per year, CEO’s close on 4 to 6 a month. Now, please, I am not saying become a book worm, but do yourself a favor… check out the top books of all time, treat it like a bucket list, and get to read them. If you are into fiction (a no no for a nerdy like me… few and far between) but here is a recommended list. https://www.listchallenges.com/business-insider-100-books-everyone-should
If you are however into business books, this may be your choice as it is mine for sure, then this is YOUR link.
4. WHO ARE YOU TALKING and LISTENING TO?
If you are talking to the naysayers, turn around and run in the opposite direction. We are broadcasting and receiving stations, remember I mentioned that our subconscious is SUCKING IN ALL THE INFORMATION via our powerful senses… why oh why to surround yourself with negativity if you want a positive foundation in thought??? If, for some reason, you only have a bunch of negative people/friends/family around you… FIND NEW ONES!!! (Sorry family…). The sad fact of life is we are the average of the 7 people we hang out with. Trust me, it is worth rather spending time with that top 100 book list than hanging with the doom and gloom of life. Been there, done that, NEVER got no friggen T-shirt, I wonder why!?
Another piece of advice, there are some amazing podcasts out there… find one, and tune into awesome positive vibes.
Let me mention meditation here, if your negative mind chatter is on the extreme, maybe a guided meditation is a great option for you. There are some marvelous options with Eldon Taylor from Innertalk for guided hypnotic meditations.
5. WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING?
Uhhhhh… nearly nothing? or EVERYTHING? I explained to my child the other day that what you see, cannot be unseen, good or bad, traumatic or easy over, we remember it all once it has passed the eyeballs and hit the frontal lobe. Choose wisely. Make sure there is some happy go lucky imagery there!
6. HYPNO WHAT-WHAT?
Time to dig deep, you want your subconscious to be happy? Time to take off the gloves and dive in. With hypnotherapy, you are NOT falling asleep as some say it HEIGHTENS your awareness and allows you to separate the rubbish from the truth we keep living. This is a powerful way to clear channels between the conscious and the subconscious mind AND possibly sort out that baggage we carry around causing a couple of energy disputes in our body. Interested, then follow this link for a fabulousFREE download to help start the process.
7. SUBLIMINALS, THE TRUE BFF OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS
Let me start by saying, your subconscious believes EVERYTHING YOU THINK AND SAY TO IT! AND IT INVITES THAT IN BY THE BUCKET LOADS, GOOD OR BAD! If you find you are running a current of negativity in thought, actions and stuff happening to you, that is YOU… not the bad driver in front of you, or the fast asleep cashier, it is YOU and only YOU, start changing the current!
Now here I hear ‘woe be me‘ – “How can I help that this all happens to ME!???”. If you are so far down the dark alley without a paddle to get out… get on to those Subliminals, they are the bomb! I will forever recommend Eldon Taylor from Innertalk for the nerdy science backing his work.
What is wonderful about these is that your subconscious is
so busy coordinating your body temperature, your breathing, your heart rate,
etc. that when you have lovely music going in the background with Subliminals
of how energetic and healthy you are, your subconscious cannot do anything but
These 7 subby hacks allow you to reprogram your subconscious mind, this will help you reach happiness, believe in yourself that little bit more and think positively, it is a win-win situation! Tune into your subconscious, truly become it’s BFF, I am not kidding.
Chun Siong Soon, Marcel Brass, Hans-Jochen Heinze &
John-Dylan Haynes, “Unconscious Determinants of Free Decisions in the Human
Brain.” Nature Neuroscience, April 13th, 2008.
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