As WOMAN DAY has just come to an end in our beautiful country South Africa, it seemed only apt to highlight these powerful beings and celebrate those who have learned to love themselves, and those who are still learning this fine and important art. YES, YOU are everything and more.
Learning to love YOU
I am driven to write this seemingly obvious blog, not so much about women and their success in life but rather a celebration for the women out there that are lost in their ‘roles’ of womanhood. Now, possibly this could be a blog about men too, for I do not feel that what I am about to write is specifically for women only, but it was highlighted in my mind at this time of year with it being Women’s month.
Personally, I feel that we are born with a knowingness of why we are here. My nature as it is, is a seeker, I am consistently seeking to understand what and why we live as we do and how we do what we do. I grew up in a staunch, STRICT home, asking no questions and telling no lies, but my Father simultaneously expected us to have an extremely open mind. This confused me and slowly I developed a silent inspired dissatisfaction, knowing that life is more than JUST growing old, consistently looking forward to holidays. I could ashamedly say I spent close on 40 odd years of my life keeping my opinion to myself once too often, thinking that this was the polite thing to do. With this in mind, I was fortunate enough to read a meaningful discussion, which was profound in every possible way, it led me to a greater understanding of how wrong I was about keeping my opinion to myself, it made me understand that finding my voice was not enough, USING IT was where the magic was. Part of the discussion I read left its mark forever on my soul, my interpretation was truly a light bulb, slap-my-forehead, tears to my eyes situation, simple as it may seem, it was massive to me; what I understood was as follows – we as humans are a creative expression on earth – I could think of nothing more beautiful and for an instant EVERYTHING STOOD STILL – I could literally, physically feel my shoulders relax.
If I embrace that I am a creative expression on this planet, it kinda opens up many pleasurable doors and shuts a couple of unwanted ones instantly.
Really, think about the simplicity of this statement.
‘I AMa creative expression‘ – anyone
Oh, my word, I can think of the realists reading this and plutzing around about now! [I still love you by the way as it takes all types to make the world go round] – yes, many would say “nothing is that simple!!”, I ask, “WHY NOT?“. And for those that do say that nothing is that simple, I challenge you, truly, how SATISFIED are you? How at ease are you? How much love do you feel within, not for someone close to you but for YOUR SOUL and where you are in life WITHOUT the title? I have had the honor and privilege of meeting and working with people, specifically woman who once stripped of the title of Mom, wife, CEO, sister, daughter, boss-babe, they then question “WHAT then?” and for that reason I say, PLEASE... pull it back, reflect on your inner soul, own your space, your fingerprint, your inner core, STOP looking for YOUR shortcomings, mistakes, inadequacies, RATHER celebrate yourself as a perfect creative expression. You see, once you do this, adding the ‘title’ of Mom, wife or Boss-babe does become a delightful frill, something beautiful and meaningful.
If however we do not know of our own beauty within, our own creative expression as souls on this planet, then no matter what frill we add, when it disappears, as it can, [my label/frill as Wife disappeared instantly one miserable day and I was left seemingly soulless not knowing how to identify with who and what I am], we flounder not necessarily knowing ‘where to from here’. I am fortunate for having marvelous influences in my life after my divorce, not only for some amazing men and women who were fantastic mentors, with who I surrounded myself with, but also what I was reading and listening to, this helped me open up the realization, acceptance, and knowingness that I could literally strip myself of every frill, title, and classification and STILL be BLOODY MARVELOUS REGARDLESS. I had reached a point of EASE INTERNALLY, my soul felt joy, a quiet peaceful humMMMMMMMMM. Let me take this time to state that by NO MEANS AM I OR WAS I in a perfect state of being, I consistently battle weight awareness, I am a single mom of 2 gorgeous children, this, of course, can come with its challenges, I am a business owner, these are the frills, BUT… WITH or WITHOUT these frills, I AM AT EASE knowing that all is and will always be GREAT. I choose that. I am and was done with self-checking, self-judgment, dis -ease within, wondering what I could do, say, be, live better… I chose ease. Maybe that is the secret to all of life, that simple statement because with it comes empowerment, with it comes removal of any possible victimhood or blame. A beautiful self-acceptance. Let me add here, this is NOT SETTLING, this is breathing, deeply, sucking in all of life and living it.
If there is one thing I would love my daughter to have on this Womens day, it is that understanding, ownership, and acceptance of self as an individual with the ability to CHOOSE. To chose life not based on the title which comes with it but rather to choose a life based on being a creative expression, for with that comes perfection, following of her bliss, and living a life of passion in a meaningful and significan way.
That being said, Women, where art thou? Be OK with being you, not just saying “I am OK with being me” but earnestly feeling marvelous with being YOU. Feeling at ease, making your choices based on YOU, and living a life with the knowledge that YOU ARE EVERYTHING AND MORE. Can you imagine waking up every day not wandering what mold you need to fit into today, yes, even if you do a 9 to 5 job or have to rush around with children, imagine KNOWING that it is ok to just be YOU? At ease and flourishing with just BEING. Knowing that every single breath, every movement, every thought, decision, and action is a perfect CREATIVE expression of YOU – and for that reason, IT IS PERFECT.
If you are into choice, variety, flexibility, and benefits when it comes to a regulated diet, then Intermittent fasting may be for you!
Intermittent fasting has always been on my radar, possibly because I have never enjoyed eating breakfast and ended up drinking coffee until my first meal at lunchtime. However, there needs to be a BUT or I would surely never have struggled with being fat! Like everything in life, drinking at least 4 cups of coffee with milk and sugar before lunchtime was a little OTT. There is ALWAYS a right and a wrong way to do anything…
This long lost art of eating we can thank our Neanderthal relatives for since 2010 the demand for and understanding of this manner of eating has escalated due to its successful manner in dealing with diabetes. For some reason, this practice disappeared but now it is back in full swing with success around every corner.
The basics are as follows, you get clever…(actually, your body does the cleverness, you just follow instructions), with intermittent fasting, your body understands that relying on fat for energy makes more sense, in fact, 5 calories more sense, as fat supplies 9 calories per gram and protein and carbohydrates only 4. Understand one thing however, if you are willing to supply it with continual copious amounts of carbohydrates, it is willing to use that BEFORE fat for fuel. Your body wants the simplest shortest easiest route to gain energy for your functioning, it WILL chose EASY if you supply EASY in carb form, so whatever you do, careful of that on your intermittent fast. It does need a little convincing i.e. regulated clean fasting to nudge it in the right direction of fat burning.
Let us look at the Top need-to-knows.
INTERMITTENT FASTING – It is all benefits!
Expect weight to drop
The minute you improve hormones – which you do with intermittent fasting, expect fat to start frying. Basic fat burning known as lipolysis kicks into overdrive. If you want to speed it up, use a VLCD (Low-Calorie Diet around 600 – 800cal) in combination with Intermittent Fasting.
If you have a desire to supercharge your weight drop then consider including 10 min intensive exercise in your day. As time progresses, add another 10min by including a slower pace after the intensive exercise. This depletes your glycogen stores that result in your body relying on burning fat for energy a lot sooner.
REMEMBER, fasting is not about calorie reduction (unless YOU chose this of course) it is about limiting the time period in which you eat daily. If you would like to focus in on fat burn then YES, drop the calorie load in that time period, but DON’T STARVE.
YOU will live longer!
Now, personally, I have not tested this theory but have an absolute belief that living to 100 will not be a problem… There is sound science that backs the fact by consuming fewer calories in a restricted time frame daily, aging may slow down and we will live longer. Just this benefit, if you love life as I do, is possibly enough to give this a PROPER go.
“We found [that beta-hydroxybutyrate] can delay vascular aging. That’s actually providing a chemical link between calorie restriction and fasting and the anti-aging effect.This compound can delay vascular aging through endothelial cells, which line the interior surface of blood vessels and lymphatic vessels. It can prevent one type of cell aging called senescence, or cellular aging. “
Dr. Ming-Hui Zou
Hormones, they get better and therefore your waistline too!
Everybody knows it takes control of insulin and blood sugar to start controlling and ridding your body of unhealthy weight. With intermittent fasting, that IS what happens. Not only does it control it but boy does it IMPROVE it enabling significant weight control and better health in muscle maintenance due to an increase in growth hormone and better heart health. With a decrease in insulin levels, intermittent fasting increases insulin sensitivity.
Be aware that it increases norepinephrine and epinephrine levels which of course increases fat breakdown. Reason being, both of these are attached to our Neanderthal status of fight or flight, stress response. When we fast, there is a primitive side to us (mine is extremely primitive, literally, my primitive side has an anxiety attack when someone says to me “maybe eat less often!”). Our bodies without food from around 12 hours starts protecting itself, releasing these 2 hormones indicates that we need to start finding energy elsewhere… that is, FAT for FUEL!!! BUT, if you have adrenal gland issues or thyroid issues, DO have input from a medical professional before taking on any fasting routine or your hunger will turn into HANGER and ill-health.
WT? is autophagy?? And why do we care?
Autophagy, sounds like a possible disease, but in fact, this is what prevents ill health in your body, see it as a built-in cleaning service with MEGA BENEFITS. And this is the exact process that comes into being in our bodies when we do intermittent fasting. It is our body’s way of cleaning out all our ‘YUCK’ cells. The ‘Auto’ means self and the ‘phagy‘ means to eat, so basically this process in your body, directly speaking is ‘self-eating’. Whilst fasting, the process of autophagy ends up breaking down cell debris and recycling proteins that are compromised. If your body is breaking down fat, there just may be a greater toxin load, and for that reason, dumping the excess debris may be required! The science behind this including information on Cancer is a great read.
Oooohhhh there is a choice…
Intermittent Fasting – Alternate Day
As it states this is intermittent fasting every other day for a full 24-hour period. Now, this is one which is not on my recommendation list at all, as you basically end up spending half your remaining life not eating. For us, as women where our hormones and fertility are regulated by calorie intake, this is NOT an advisable option.
Now yes, some do take on this fasting process but for me personally, I cannot see myself functioning optimally on this. First of all, most people with weight issues enjoy food. Chances are anybody fighting fat may have to choose between taking on a controlled diet and integrating it into their lifestyles for life and not eating every second day is diabolical. Then, if you have a lot of fat to sizzle, sticking to this over a short period can also be tough, never mind 6 months to a year and can cause you to give up and burn that diet wagon once again!
5: 2 Fasting
This is one plan which a vast majority of my clients succeeded at. It entails eating normally for 5 days and limiting food to 600cal and no more for 2 days. You chose the 2 days which makes it fairly flexible. With this plan burning fat around that belly works a charm.
16/8 Daily Fasting:
My personal favorite, where I fast for 16 hours and eat for on average 8 hours. I have found this an easy way to fast, based on the fact that I am not a big breakfast eater as said before and can go without. I also chose to skip breakfast rather than supper as I love sitting down with my children for supper. Within this manner of fasting is great flexibility, chose to skip breakfast or supper, chose to have your larger meal at lunchtime to reduce the calories that need work whilst you sleep. It may sound difficult but in fact, when you reflect on it you may find that you HAVE done this before without feeling regulated. You may not get to lunch and in fact, I know of people who don’t even get to lunch and push through to supper. Why I love this choice is it is something which I would do as a choice of lifestyle which allows me to live healthily and control my weight. Often when we chose a diet it does not allow us to embrace it FOREVER, I do believe that whatever we use to drop fat we must be able to do forever and a day AND be flexible within it.
The flexibility is also based on when you start, you can start your fast any time, and start eating 16 hours after. So maybe you would like to eat from 10 till 6 pm or 2 till 10 pm (little late unless you work nightshift of course) but pick your 8 hours based on YOUR LIFESTYLE.
This is once per week, on average for 18 to 24hours. You start from supper time around 6 pm the previous day, sleep through most of the fast (yes, I do advise an early evening to prevent finding yourself wandering to the fridge by midday the next day). Your intake for the day is water, tea, and good quality coffee till at least early evening, that is a full successful day. If this suits your lifestyle, fantastic. PLEASE be kind on yourself, there is no need to berate yourself if you do NOT make 24 hours. You have effectively stretched yourself and possibly no matter how many hours you have given your body a resting period it will thank you for and most likely next time around it will be easier!
My advice would be as follows, make sure if you are fasting that days you are not fasting in, for example, the 5 : 2 fasting times, make sure you eat sensibly, mindfully and not try to overeat or treat it like a ‘cheat’ day and gorge yourself… big mistake. Yes, common sense but sometimes we need reminding… Of course the same applies for the 16 : 8 hours, it can turn into on-diet and off-diet which can undo what we are trying to do.
METABOLISM, I need all of it!
We have been sold on the fact that little snacks through the day is good for us… it keeps our metabolism going… well, what I found firstly, was that when this was the approach healthy snacks eventually became ANY SNACKS and at this point for some odd reason, he he heheheheheheheh, there is a weight loss plateau… On further investigation we find muffins becoming the standard in between snack which causes more harm than good. Other than that, snacking is not necessary to keep our metabolism in place. There are plenty of available studies in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition which deal with continual fasting and alternate-day fasting resulted in no decrease in metabolic rate. Even if you chose to do a very low-calorie diet of around 800 calories, your metabolic rate remains unharmed.
Being foodless is not the problem, rather excessive weight and lack of muscle mass is more the problem. You see, some plonkers – that includes me, did do extreme diets in which case muscle is lost, the minute that drops there is less to chew excess fat and then your basal metabolic rate drops… when eating correctly and nourishing your body with great REAL FOOD and include supplementing where needs be is the right way to go about this, then metabolism will NOT be a problem. Burn fat and live a healthy lifestyle and metabolism concerns will disappear.
It may be for you, OR NOT
Disclaimer: Note the benefits of intermittent fasting but know that it is controversial. If diabetic your dose may need to be adapted and you would need to discuss any lifestyle changes with your doctor. Please take note that people who are underweight or have eating disorders like anorexia, women who are pregnant or breastfeeding, and people under the age of 18 should NOT do this plan.
Take care, as stated above, if any adrenal gland and thyroid challenges and/or any chronic medical conditions seek medical advice before taking on intermittent fasting. Add to that, if you do have low blood sugar or suffer from dizziness if you do not eat, be cautious. Then, based on the energy requirements of a child, pregnant or breastfeeding women, this is NOT an optimal choice.
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Tried everything? Realizing that the battle of the bulge is a battle that has no end? Often, the reason for continual fat gain and ill-health stems directly from hormone imbalances.
There are 4 heavyweights in this department that need very little introduction, but each takes a corner of the fighting ring and does a lot of damage. Insulin, the thyroid, cortisol and sex hormones all play a role in becoming unfriendly neighbors in your body, the result, FAT GAIN.
This is one we all know, it and Diabetes are best mates. Normally our pancreas when functioning as it should secrete insulin that helps glucose travel to muscle and to produce energy and of course fat for storage. The challenge comes when the insulin resistance occurs, why, well, insulin is like LEPTIN which is a hormone that says you are happily full, and when you are insulin resistant, well, that message goes nowhere. So when we consume high sugar there is less feedback saying “I am full” and less appetite reduction, basically, you stay hungry.
With staying ‘HANGRY’ you keep eating and keep on eating and your Insulin neighbor causes some heavyweight addition. This causes weight gain, inflammation and of course chronic disease.
This has its implication on many a woman and a man, one in 10 men and one in 5 women have been affected by a low thyroid function also known as hypothyroidism. It is now thought that a cause of hypothyroidism is gluten intolerance, interesting this as if we get our gut functioning properly, can we move away from gluten intolerance and/or if we don’t eat elements that bring about gluten intolerance then we will solve our thyroid dilemma. It may well be worth the SACRIFICE!
WHY worth the sacrifice? Well if your thyroid is misfiring, chances are your weight could be on the increase too. You see, your thyroid does have an influence on how fast or slow you burn up energy. If it is too slow, as in hypothyroidism, this is when your metabolic rate is a snail’s pace. AND when you start gaining weight, are lethargic and have brittle nails. NO GOOD.
But WAIT, there is more, thyroid issues are brought about by nutritional deficiencies such as selenium, iodine, zinc, and the mighty omega 3 fats, so the answer to this is, EAT RIGHT and SUPPLEMENT!
The fact is to get it right we need to make sure that it IS DIAGNOSED firstly, then get the correct tests done by a doctor. Generally what is checked is TSH – Thyroid Stimulating Hormone, free T3 and T4, and lastly the thyroids antibodies.
Then eating right is one of the easiest and best ways to get it sorted. Personally, I had an underactive thyroid many years back and after swallowing a hand full of pills I decided to go the natural nutritional route as I could not see myself doing the pills daily. It works! GREAT NOURISHMENT may work for you too! Besides good supplements such as Omega with Vitamin D, to help regulate your endocrine system, pay attention to adding pumpkin seeds, Brazil nuts and oysters [not that this is a daily grocery item for me] and avoid eating thyroid blocking goitrogens such as soybeans, and raw cruciferous veggies.
And finally, make sure your doctor assists you based on your tests that are done and your health status.
Now, let us bring in a heavy hitter. Cortisol carries a punch based on the fact that it has EVERYTHING to do with stress and that deep down we are still Neanderthal… Where in the good old days stress caused the Neanderthal to run for cover, these days, stress sits in our thoughts, then it sends a couple of self-destructive messages to our metabolic pathways when then help us politely to gain weight and become insulin resistant. Our Neanderthal counterpart WAS being ATTACKED, we, however, PERCEIVE A THREAT when then we have no need to run from [aka some good exercise] so we end up sitting, stressing and gaining weight.
Cortisol kindly helps you run for your life, in those days that is, it forced quick energy into your bloodstream for just that, quick energy… BUT simultaneously, is closing our digestive function and slows metabolism… basically energy conservation to ensure YOU survive the perceived THREAT?!
Do this routine for a couple of days, then weeks, then years and soon your ability to handle stress seems FANTASTIC externally, but internally, oh boy, we have a problem, high blood sugar, a fat belly, sky-high blood pressure, muscle loss (which of course helps the fat pack on) and finally cholesterol, no, not the healthy one.
Slowly that which is supposed to enable to protect yourself and run for your life is, in fact, killing you silently.
I would suggest that the practice of meditation should be your first go to. Take on breathing techniques to breath into and out of stressful situations. Get your thought process rewired, Subliminals are great for that too.
Then, gain a superpower, stretching time… I know, most laugh at me when I say that is my superpower, but I am proud of it. How do you stretch time? Easy, be present, start by being instead of doing. Pay attention to every detail and put down the bloody phone! Train yourself to SLOW EVERYTHING DOWN. And breath into that… It is a great feeling and does take practice in our fast-paced world.
Let us have a look at these, firstly, estrogen, we think this is just a women’s ‘moan’, well men and women have it and too much of it can cause weight issues. WHERE does this come from? Well simply, refined carbohydrates, sugar and that delightful glass of one wine too many causes estrogen to throw a punch. And once again we cannot escape a healthy gut with the right quantity of good fiber which influences the strength of that PUNCH… Besides the foods we eat, triggering estrogen is as easy as taking antibiotics and just ‘living’. Why living? Well, there is substantial use of pesticides called xenoestrogens which are copycat estrogens causing in women problematic menstrual cycles, fluid retention, breast tenderness, and fibroids.
Men also struggle, beer belly and ‘man boobs‘ become clear, then they lose body hair as their testosterone drops, yes, as the low estrogen starts affecting them, and aging ALSO sets in, men start losing testosterone too. With this lack of testosterone, men age faster too. Men are advised to start exercising, reduce alcohol and stress [what is the chance of reducing stress as they get older these days – guys maybe take on meditation practice???]. The low testosterone, of course, leads to low sex drive, bone loss (osteoporosis being the end result) and mental fog and fatigue. That is over and above WEIGHT GAIN. Clearly, sex hormones need our attention!
What is impacting these hormones? If your dietary pick is low-fat foods and possibly using statin drugs (which block cholesterol production – yes we need cholesterol in our bodies!!!), the advise is to rather aim for higher fat intake and really do your investigation on the necessity of those statins. Cholesterol produces testosterone and all the other sex hormones and therefore speak to your doctor and find out about solving your statin problem – nutrition alone can get you off your statins. Time to sort out the sex drive.
What can be said about improving these hormones is the following, include fiber-based foods, if you don’t get enough of these, get a supplement of fiber. Decide how important alcohol is and limit it as much as possible. Start exercising – if however you are highly stressed, chose an easy over form of exercise to not add stress to your already stressful life. Make sure that you avoid constipation, we need to get rid of toxins in your body, good probiotic is also a great addition. Take it DAILY.
Besides this bit of information, let me add, getting your weight under control with the help of hormones should be easy, there are after all 9 hormones in your body that tell you to eat more and 14 that tell you to stop eating according to Dr. Roizen and Dr. Oz’s book on helping You on diet.
So, all we need to do is take care of these FAB 4, then the rest should be a walk in the park. Take care of your hormones and they will take care of you, maybe not CORTISOL, but he is the heavy hitter after all.
Aging can be daunting, especially when at age 18 most think that 40-year-olds are making exit plans from THIS LIFE…
This was me, I really thought my parents were on the verge of senior citizen classification when they hit 40… why though. I have spent some time thinking about this and realized that the word OLD is attached by default to DECREPIT, SICKLINESS, DISEASE, LACK LUSTRE, WRINKLES, oh my word I could go on and on… and that attachment is what society has ingrained in us from the moment we were taught to speak.
Then we go through life, foot on the pedal to get to our 20’s, by the time we get there we hit the handbrake and say “lordy, can we just stay here!??“. So we journey through life, slightly obsessed that age is not manifesting fast enough and then too fast, kinda like hitting the brake and petrol at the same time!
Well, I was fortunate enough to pick up a gem of a book on aging, may I say, a different take. Written many years back by a VERY young-looking (hehehehe) Deepak Chopra. The book was Ageless Body, Timeless Mind and I think I picked it up due to being attracted to the ageless body part of the title, now that would appeal to just about anyone, young or old.
Something which stuck in my mind (and there is plenty that can from this gem!!!) was the following:
“Only the present moment exists; past and future are mental projections. If you can free yourself of these projections, trying neither to relive the past nor to control the future, a space is opened for a completely new experience – the experience of ageless body and timeless mind.”
YES… YESSSSSS… YESSSSSSSSSSSS!
I have always said that I have a desire for only ONE SUPERPOWER… that of stretching time. With this in my mind, I can now be that superhero with zero sense of goofiness.
Back to the seriousness of this. I would like to let all Millenials know that life does not end at 30, or 40, or 60 for that matter. I families worried about the fact that 28-year-olds don’t have their life sorted out and I immediately wonder if THEY DO??? I ALSO see 18-year-olds thinking they DONT NEED to sort their life out and prefer the idea of wandering around like a lost stinky in the perfume factory. Where is the balance? Well simply put, life is not about growing UP, rather moving FORWARD. We are, after all, energy beings, and if we are not on the go, chanced are we are in reverse.
There seems to be the consensus that the Millenials seem to be a little ‘lost’ if they have not reached CEO status by 23 or at a push for the slow ones at 28, what so they can spend their 30’s and 40’s nose to the grindstone missing out on life? Possibly even in jobs which they THOUGHT they loved, doing what they ASSUMED would be significant. Now yes… before I look like a sour ‘old’ [sic] bag who is giving Millenials a free pass, I would like to come to my defense… When we embrace the present, without worry about the future, and regrets about the past, chances are we will be able to go healthily (no ulcers or clapped-out thyroid and liver to deal with) into the future. I am not saying do NOTHING. But DO do something which encompasses YOUR BLISS!
If we spent our time pursuing bliss for ourselves, do you think we would be worried about age? And do you think maybe just maybe out gratifying existence would most likely lead to more chance of fantastic health? In fact, we may look FAR YOUNGER than any person sitting for 16 hours a day in a bank. YES, we all need jobs, I ain’t bashing that. I AM BASHING the notion that we just need to earn money. What we NEED is to find our bliss FIRST and then money WILL be made, hands over fist – IF that is your thing.
So, if by chance, you feel you are on the back foot, or age is scaring the living life out of you, fear not, there are many that lived to ripe old ages, those who only made their millions at 70, published a book, became a doctor… learn to stretch time, be present, embrace the fact that a life lived well is better than not having lived at all.
Close the door on aging, in today’s world it is close to a myth if you pay attention to loving yourself, forgiving daily, sharing gratitude and random acts of kindness, and most of all, FINDING and LIVING YOUR BLISS.
We all know the phrase; HAPPINESS is an INSIDE job? And that phrase makes it sound simple right?
If however, you came from the era (that would be my era, like the ’80s), that required that you must “Put a smile on THAT dial!!” and “Do what needs to be done” then that inside job may not have been that easy. But, I am extremely happy to move forward with time, that being said, I wholeheartedly support the fact that HAPPINESS is an inside job.
Maybe one of my reasons for support for this is my understanding that our thoughts create things. And if we want a MISERABLE life (which some say they don’t but do try to create it by the miserable thoughts they think), all we need to do is think about hardship and lack of. But the opposite of this is true too!! AND THAT IS EXCITING! If you want an AWESOME life… well get to happy thoughts AND QUICK!
Like all things that are too good to be true in life, there is a catch… scientists at the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences have revealed that we do make our decisions have our thoughts subconsciously 6 to 7 seconds before acting them out. This is where understanding the subconscious, in my opinion, is valid to our living our life of bliss and happiness, after all if happiness is the new ROI then surely we need to have a real in-depth friendship (BFF for the younger peeps) with our subconscious mind?
LET US MAKE FRIENDS WITH OUR NEW SUREFIRE WAY TO HAPPINESS AS A ROI – OUR SUBCONSCIOUS
Every single day from the time you were born your subconscious has absorbed and integrated every parcel of information supplied by all your senses, you are truly a walking supercomputer with volumes of TB drives. To most this information is unconscious, a world away, but with exceptional hypnotherapy, you could do magically in recalling the information you wish to. And…. if that is the case, maybe you could also start influencing that information to create a happier happiness.
So why do we store all this ‘senseless‘ information? We are at heart still neanderthal, with heightened senses they did not only hunt better, but they sensed danger and were prepared for anything that came their way. It was indeed all about SURVIVAL. In my opinion, we have such a supercomputer in store as our subconscious purely to keep us safe and secure. To handle all the sensory information, to dice it up and serve it in good order for our conscious mind to ‘think‘ and know to the best of its ability, it has made the decision.
These days, living in a ‘normal’ community, we have little need to go into fight or flight action, some do, but for me, that is not a concern. So how do I make the best use of this sensory overload, how do I make my subconscious (who if you recall makes decisions before I even act on them) work FOR ME? How do I ensure that my thoughts are happiest, that I indeed have a maximum ROI?
7 WAYS TO HAPPIEST HAPPY ROI AND A NEW BFF.
This is a starting point for sure. Now, generally speaking, I do find some
affirmations make my conscious mind go
“whahaahahahahahah NOOOOO WAYYYYYY!!!!!!”
so picking these beauties are important. One of my favorite way of handling affirmations was promoted by Paula Llanguth Ryan, she works by pre wording the sentence with “I see myself…“. This I found extremely powerful, sometimes what we want seems so far off that it is easier to believe it if you see yourself with it. An example would be a normal affirmation is:
“I am a perfect size and full of health and vibrancy.”
“I see myself at a perfect size and full of health and vibrancy.“
If you are looking for affirmations, feel free to check out my Pinterest link for that – then edit the affirmations by adding “I see myself…”
My all-time favorite. This is an undercover affirmation jam-packed with positive emotions. If we find something new DAILY to be grateful for chances are we will start noticing a shift in our lives. I prefer not to keep these to myself. I share my gratitudes, a journal is NOT ENOUGH. VERBALISE IT! SAY IT OUT LOUD WITH ENTHUSIASM to your friends family and loved ones. Start a gratitude group, hearing others gratitude adds to your world, trust me. Get your children involved, the sooner the better. Mine do 3 gratitudes on the way to school EVERY day…
The universe loves a grateful heart and will send you a TON more to be grateful for… Do you see, HAPPINESS IS GOING UP!
3. READ RIGHT
I watch daily as people scrutinize what children are watching on TV, my greatest concern is our children seem to have lost the art of reading. And, reading great books at that. I am beyond excitement at the thought that I can get an entire lifetime of one person’s thoughts between 2 covers…
The average person reads 2 to 4 books per year, CEO’s close on 4 to 6 a month. Now, please, I am not saying become a book worm, but do yourself a favor… check out the top books of all time, treat it like a bucket list, and get to read them. If you are into fiction (a no no for a nerdy like me… few and far between) but here is a recommended list. https://www.listchallenges.com/business-insider-100-books-everyone-should
If you are however into business books, this may be your choice as it is mine for sure, then this is YOUR link.
4. WHO ARE YOU TALKING and LISTENING TO?
If you are talking to the naysayers, turn around and run in the opposite direction. We are broadcasting and receiving stations, remember I mentioned that our subconscious is SUCKING IN ALL THE INFORMATION via our powerful senses… why oh why to surround yourself with negativity if you want a positive foundation in thought??? If, for some reason, you only have a bunch of negative people/friends/family around you… FIND NEW ONES!!! (Sorry family…). The sad fact of life is we are the average of the 7 people we hang out with. Trust me, it is worth rather spending time with that top 100 book list than hanging with the doom and gloom of life. Been there, done that, NEVER got no friggen T-shirt, I wonder why!?
Another piece of advice, there are some amazing podcasts out there… find one, and tune into awesome positive vibes.
Let me mention meditation here, if your negative mind chatter is on the extreme, maybe a guided meditation is a great option for you. There are some marvelous options with Eldon Taylor from Innertalk for guided hypnotic meditations.
5. WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING?
Uhhhhh… nearly nothing? or EVERYTHING? I explained to my child the other day that what you see, cannot be unseen, good or bad, traumatic or easy over, we remember it all once it has passed the eyeballs and hit the frontal lobe. Choose wisely. Make sure there is some happy go lucky imagery there!
6. HYPNO WHAT-WHAT?
Time to dig deep, you want your subconscious to be happy? Time to take off the gloves and dive in. With hypnotherapy, you are NOT falling asleep as some say it HEIGHTENS your awareness and allows you to separate the rubbish from the truth we keep living. This is a powerful way to clear channels between the conscious and the subconscious mind AND possibly sort out that baggage we carry around causing a couple of energy disputes in our body. Interested, then follow this link for a fabulousFREE download to help start the process.
7. SUBLIMINALS, THE TRUE BFF OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS
Let me start by saying, your subconscious believes EVERYTHING YOU THINK AND SAY TO IT! AND IT INVITES THAT IN BY THE BUCKET LOADS, GOOD OR BAD! If you find you are running a current of negativity in thought, actions and stuff happening to you, that is YOU… not the bad driver in front of you, or the fast asleep cashier, it is YOU and only YOU, start changing the current!
Now here I hear ‘woe be me‘ – “How can I help that this all happens to ME!???”. If you are so far down the dark alley without a paddle to get out… get on to those Subliminals, they are the bomb! I will forever recommend Eldon Taylor from Innertalk for the nerdy science backing his work.
What is wonderful about these is that your subconscious is
so busy coordinating your body temperature, your breathing, your heart rate,
etc. that when you have lovely music going in the background with Subliminals
of how energetic and healthy you are, your subconscious cannot do anything but
These 7 subby hacks allow you to reprogram your subconscious mind, this will help you reach happiness, believe in yourself that little bit more and think positively, it is a win-win situation! Tune into your subconscious, truly become it’s BFF, I am not kidding.
Chun Siong Soon, Marcel Brass, Hans-Jochen Heinze &
John-Dylan Haynes, “Unconscious Determinants of Free Decisions in the Human
Brain.” Nature Neuroscience, April 13th, 2008.
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