TIME to BURN the ships? Forgiveness mastery.

TIME to BURN the ships? Forgiveness mastery.

Possibly the toughest, yet worthiest of all thoughts and/or actions you can perform, forgiveness; there is no greater source of self-preservation (besides maybe breathing).

Have you ever said or thought “I will never forgive you!“? Have you ever thought what the impact of that is on YOU physically, mentally and emotionally? We live in a world of never forgive, never forget and only those with who truly realize the impact of the impasse realize that this is not the wisest route to follow. No forgiveness is a bitter poison that gets dished for a guest, but at the end of the day, only gets consumed by you. Cut the strings, BURN THE SHIPS, do not be the puppet in anybody’s show. FORGIVE AND LET GO.

It was Jim Rohn who said that the winds of change blow on all of us, it is how we set our sails that determine OUR outcome. The relevance of this is far-reaching, we tend to gauge our success by the external influences that impact us and ‘force’ us to take to a certain direction, if we comply we would surely reach success in finances, relationships and health? Not necessarily, only by implementing ‘I am the Captain of my own ship‘ do we breed an internal compass point that guides us to success.

How does FORGIVENESS impact us? Or rather, how does lack of forgiveness impact us?


Historically, Émile Coué, the French mind theorist instigated autosuggestion of ‘day by day in every way…’ to have an impact on a person living positively. The basics of this were that you believe this mentally and emotionally, thus allowing your subconscious to take on agreement to the suggestions over time, slowly your perceptions of the world around you and of course yourself as well starts to transform.

Forgive and let go
Forgive and let go

Now let us take it a step further, Mitch Horowitz summed it up beautifully in his book ‘” target=”_blank”>The Miracle Club‘ where he discusses the Golden Rule, ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you‘, this, the Golden Rule, came about in the late seventeenth-century England. He quotes a detailed section from Napoleon Hill’s brilliant book, The Miracle Club""” target=”_blank” rel=”noreferrer noopener” aria-label=”Law of Success (opens in a new tab)”>Law of Success, that relates to this accepted ‘Rule’, I will quote the same section to avoid misunderstanding of any sort. This will ensure clarity on the impact of a lack of forgiveness.

Now, I am one of those individuals that have always embraced forgiveness, but I am aware of some who hold tightly to the unforgivenesses false feel of justice and on reading this, my veins ran cold based on the understanding of its validity in life as we know it. This passage particularly made me pause and reflect for quite some time…

“Your thoughts of others are registered in your subconscious mind through the principle of autosuggestion,” Hill wrote, “thereby building your own character in exact duplicate.” Hence: “You must ‘think of others as you wish them to think of you.’ The law upon which the Golden Rule is based begins affecting you, for good or evil, the moment you release a thought.”
It is worth considering Hill’s point of view at length:
“If all your acts toward others, and even your thoughts of others, are registered in your subconscious mind, through the principle of autosuggestion, thereby building your own character in exact duplicate of your thoughts and acts, can you not see how important it is to guard those acts and thoughts?
We are now in the very heart of the real reason for doing unto others as we would have them do unto us, for it is obvious that whatever we do unto others we do unto ourselves.
Stated in another way, every act and every thought you release modifies your own character in exact conformity with the nature of the act or thought, and your character is a sort of center of magnetic attraction, which attracts to you the people and conditions that harmonize with it. You cannot indulge in an act toward another person without having first created the nature of that act in your own thought, and you cannot release a thought without planting the sum and substance and nature of it in your own subconscious mind, there to become a part and parcel of your own character.
Grasp this simple principle and you will understand why you cannot afford to hate or envy another person. You will also understand why you cannot afford to strike back, in kind, at those who do you an injustice. Likewise, you will understand the injunction, “Return good for evil.”

Euuuowch… Mitch Horowitz in his BRILLIANTLY written book follows up with this to close this debate;

You become what you do not forgive.”


For the first time in my life, I looked past my already clear understanding of what unforgiveness can do to health, how it can break you down mentally by clinging on to it, here we see how we literally are CREATING ourselves in like image of our unforgiven item by absorption.



Yup, you heard right, if you love your life and have a desire to live to at least 100 years of age, start actively forgiving, not just those who may have done you harm but yourself too!
Think about this, the poison chalice of unforgiveness being held by you is BEING HELD BY YOU… Now you may say… but I don’t forgive that event/person/process for they do NOT deserve forgiveness then keep this in mind;

LIFE does not happen TO YOU, it DOES happen FOR YOU… practice forgiveness, and move forward.

As a matter of scientific interest, let us have a look at a Japanese author and pseudoscientist, Dr Emoto, who said that human consciousness has an effect on the molecular structure of water – this is relevant based on the fact that WE ARE 70% water, therefore if we keep negative non-forgiving thoughts we are messing with the building blocks of our bodies. Emoto’s work was based on pseudoscientific hypotheses that water could react to positive thoughts and words. Our cells primary content is water, we are made up of millions of cells and our immunity needs positively functioning cells. Yes, we impact those around us, whether positive or negative, our energy does transfer to those around us AND we slowly impact our length of life.

Now there may be a strong argument that some of us do know some miserable characters who are reaching ripe old ages, that may be, but they are miserable and have lived miserable lives for a reason…


Your adrenal gland deals with stress, any anger held without release promotes and motivates fight or flight in your body which in turn activates your adrenal gland. This affects your blood pressure and naturally your heart rate. The minute you forgive, the burden is removed off your shoulders, note how you CAN BREATH EASY when you hand it over and let it go!


The process of holding on to anger and never practicing forgiveness only leads to stress and anxiety, as I said above, your blood pressure increases, your heart HAS TO WORK HARDER, after all, it loves you and must make sure you are HAPPY. If you forgive others AND yourself your heart feels the love, your soul can peacefully smile. The only one that may be impacted is your resident ego.


There is such power in forgiveness when it comes to mental health not just your own but again, those around you. You may have heard of:

I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you

Officially known as Ho’oponopono, this was developed by the Hawaiian therapist Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, he used this prayerful mantra to cure an entire ward of criminally insane patients. This was done without ever meeting any of them or spending a moment in the same room. He reviewed each of the patients’ files, and then he healed them by healing himself using the statement above.

Using a forgiveness statement like this can be life-changing, don’t say it just once, try and say it over and over for a few minutes on end and feel positive energy lift within. The detail on Ho’oponopono will be shared in a blog post shortly.

Forgiveness is empowering
Forgiveness is empowering

Another way of dealing with forgiveness are the use of subliminals. Personally I have worked with these and forever will, not only are they enjoyable back ground music but I find them quite impactful. Especially if you are maybe finding it hard to forgive, or if you try to forgive and your gut says NO WAY, then working with subliminal input can be extremely helpful. I am suggesting one that is specifically for forgiveness. Do have a look at the wording they use to ensure it works for you.

Basically, forgiveness can:
Lead to a stronger immune system
Result in good heart health
Improve mental health
Result in reduced anxiety and stress
It can lower blood pressure
Lead to healthier relationships
Result in fewer depression symptoms
And my favorite, improved self-esteem


This is a journey worth taking, it moves you from holding on to suffering, anger, hurt, rejection to a place that allows you to have an improved life. I am certain that there are serious deeds in need of forgiveness in peoples lives, and some will say, how do you even get to that place of forgiveness? I would like to answer with a question, and it may seem oversimplified, but do ponder for a moment;

How does holding on to all of that pain serve you?

I am of the realization that NOTHING I held on to, thinking that it would serve me in some way, actually did.

Take careful small steps forward, decide to truly release yourself and the culprit from that negative energy. Start small, it may have been someone who cut you off in traffic, start there. Every day grow in your ability of forgiveness. If you need support, get it!

Now comes the tough part, remember I mentioned, life happens for you, not to you? Move from the zone of the victim into being the hero of your own story – then live the newly improved revised story. BURN THE SHIPS! Decide not to revisit or return to those emotions that never served you in the first place.


Many people are afraid of the word ‘forgive’, they think that after that they and the culprit would need to be best buds. Not so, the word forgive means to hand it over, to let go of those feelings, to create a void which could be filled with only positive feelings if we allow it. In FACT… the joy of forgiveness is forever giving, frequently we find ourselves stuck in finances, relationships or health issues, with a little investigation and mindfulness, we may find we ONLY NEED TO FORGIVE a situation or a person closely linked to the situation. It is at this time I work with ‘I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I LOVE YOU‘ and I say it with emotional DEPTH and ENTHUSIASM.


I came across an extremely helpful understanding of how to go about forgiveness including a decree to use in speaking forgiveness in my life. The helpful information I came across was shared by Catherine Ponder, it is simple and meaningful.

When forgiving, “sit for half an hour every day and mentally forgive every one that you are out of harmony with, feel badly toward or are concerned about. If you have accused anyone of injustice, if you have discussed anyone unkindly, if you have criticized or gossiped about anyone… mentally ask their forgiveness. Subconsciously, they will respond. In like manner, if you have accused yourself of failure or mistakes, forgive yourself.

She explains that when we hold resentment towards a situation or person/s, we are bound to that person/s or condition by “an emotional link that is stronger than steel. The practice of forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and be free“. It makes sense, think about when you hold on to resentment, the mood that goes with it, IT IS HEAVY?!

By emotionally releasing the situation or condition we need to keep in mind that we “never lose anything that still belongs to you by divine right, through the act of emotional release. Instead, you make way for your good to manifest in grander ways than ever before.” That is, we create a vacuum, a void, for something greater and better in our lives.

To finish this off, i have included the following, a decree I make use of as a FORGIVENESS AFFIRMATION (reference to Catherine Ponder number of books):

All that has offended me, I forgive,
Within and without, I forgive,
Things past, things present and things future, I forgive,
I forgive positively everyone and everything that could possibly need forgiveness of the past or present,
I forgive absolutely everyone,
They are free now and I am free too.
All things are cleared up between us now and forever.
I am in right relationships with all people and all situations now.
I fully and freely forgive you. I lose you and let you go to your good quickly and in peace. All is cleared up between us now and forever. Just as you fully and freely forgive me, lose me and let me go to my good quickly and in peace. All is cleared up between us now and forever.
I forgive myself.


Horowitz, Mitch. The Law of Success""” target=”_blank” rel=”noreferrer noopener” aria-label=”The Miracle Club (opens in a new tab)”>The Miracle Club: How Thoughts Become Reality (pp. 86-87). Inner Traditions/Bear & Company. Kindle Edition.

KETO? A diet or a process?

KETO? A diet or a process?

Ask a lot of people out there, “What diet do you think is good to go with?” 8 out of 10 times you will hear “Keto – it is great, AND the food is yum!”, or “high fat, low carbs – you know ‘that one’ where you get to eat the fat on the steak?”…

But is keto a DIET or a PROCESS? In my books, it is only a process, in the billion dollar diet industry it IS A DIET! With so many variables to this regulated ‘diet’, even I learn about a new version nearly every day. Creativity wins in the diet industry no doubt. We just need to look at Google search on diet options to see that.

Is Keto a diet or a process?
Is Keto a diet or a process? PROCESS FOR SURE!

Now, some may think, this is the ‘current’ fad diet, but not so, this has been around for a very long time, with SUGAR getting the bad-guy status (@billieeilish you do not have sole rights to that title, sugar had it first) , people needed something to make their food taste better. In walks Mr FAT, dressed neatly in only grass fed attire, food never tasted as good and even better the minute it got labelled as a ‘diet’. It is a PROCESS, all sciency types, stand with me on this one please.

My experience with plenty of eager dieters, who have come to sit on my couch before after and during a regulated keto diet plan, has had its impact on my opinion. I am personally not a scientist, dietician, nutritionist or doctor and am happy not to claim the title, I am however someone who packs a punch in experience when coaching people into wellness. Before I share THEIR experience, I would like to add, I have found in my time dealing with diets that humans are incredibly good at relying on EXTERNAL SUPPORT/GRATIFICATION/FIXER UPPERS, they WANT/NEED something OR somebody else to be the magic pill and oh boy, on queue, (do advertisers know that!!!?) in walks the ‘Ketogenic Diet’, aka, the magic fix that tastes FANTASTIC. Back to the dieters on my couch… I have heard amazing success stories, horror stories, and outright lies. In their self-defense, it was for them; self-defense?!

For those who have no clue what regulated keto diets actually entail, I will give the commercially accepted WEIGHT LOSS DRIVEN understanding: It is a VERY low-carb, with a high-fat diet, similar to Atkins and other low-carb diets but just yummier. You basically replace MOST OF YOUR carbs with fats – good fats if you read the fine print (even though most keto goers know this… sadly, a little bad fat always finds its way in, oh and did I mention the sugar leak and the HAVOC that causes on ketosis?). By replacing carbs you put your body into a metabolic state called ketosis where it ‘burns’ fats for fuel/energy. Mmmmm, who was that scientist that said you can transform one energy to another but it does not ‘GO AWAY’… the law of conservation of energy where “energy can neither be created nor destroyed; rather, it can only be transformed or transferred from one form to another”.

So the whole keto idea revolves around the fact that; your body does need energy to ‘do’, to exist. If you do not supply that energy in the form of for example a delicious chocolate cake, a nutritious homemade meal, or an energy drink [sic], IT WILL BE OK, as there is plenty of energy in the form of fat sitting on your rump or muffin top available, to be converted into usable energy – fat be gone. That simple? If only…

Time to burn some fat for energy! The magic fix is here!
Time to burn some fat for energy! The magic fix is here!

Back to my dieters on the couch. One lady specifically I remember. She and hubby, 8 months before seeing me, had decided to go strictly ketogenic. Now both were not actually overweight (in today’s accepted terms, I would like to add), and both were reasonably healthy. She came through the keto self-experiment fairly bruised and battered. At age 38 her hormones had turned upside down 6 months in and no matter how much or how little she ate, post keto, her weight did not budge. I mention this little bit of information purely to once again EMPHASIS that your diet IS PERSONAL, like your fingerprint. NO ONE PERSON IS THE SAME how on earth can we work on averages, which it seems is what is being touted within the variances of keto?

My next question is this, when you are taking on ANY DIET, which with it comes limitations, rules and regulations, bland food, some exercise, lots of water, sometimes supplements and my pet hate, black coffee (and please, I LOVE the IDEA of keto as much as any other individual but my Ma taught me, anything that seems too good, generally is so), COULD there be a possible pitfall in the fine print of the regulated keto diet? Besides the fact that my gallbladder was removed at age 18 – which makes eating 80% fat a challenge for my body, I look at the regulated keto diet as I look at ANY diet, and ask; CAN I DO IT FOREVER?


There is a diet, and there is a regulated diet. Big difference. The regulated diet means you need to be on top of the rules and regulations for the diet you are embracing. Keto diet regulated; high fat, low carb and a bit of protein, basically; an average of 70-80% fat from total daily calories, 5-10% carbohydrate, and 10-20% protein. Today I heard my friend was told to do 60% fat, 30% protein, and 10% carb – another version of a keto diet. Now interesting here, relative to WHO is on this diet, your carb intake, to get you INTO ketosis can be a massive variable, from 20grams a day to 100… that is a HUGE difference in my world. And herein lies the sweet point, most ‘get-on-the-keto-diet-wagon’ don’t realize this huge variation, they go to the averages, YOU ARE NOT AVERAGE! That is like serving a coffee, black no sugar, to all my guests because that is my average coffee drinkers preference??!

So, if you are hardcore keto, I know you are GETTING IT RIGHT! But the average [sic] peep out there, (I hope your hair rose in that statement) will not look for or get the sciency bit about this diet – not for any other reason but the feeling of ‘close is good enough’. For those who don’t know, yup the averagers… this regulated diet is ALL SCIENCE. In fact, the reason I was attracted to it was exactly that, the science. But the science makes you very aware that this diet sits on a knife-edge when it comes to getting it right. The carb intake alone, if ‘slightly’ overdone, and I do mean slightly, allows you to skid right out of a ketogenic state of fat burning straight into a glucose burning state and the result is, you stay fat… and frustrated.

Will I be toeing the line between eating fat and getting fat to eating fat and burning fat too often? And will I be able to keep up with eating 80% clean good quality perfect fat for the rest of my life? And am I really able to ‘be regulated’ by a diet which is, in fact, a process?

You see, the reason why the diet industry IS a billion-dollar industry is based on the fact that we BUY INTO ‘regulated’ diets that we have ZERO CHANCE of adapting and living within forever and in that way, we are ON DIET or OFF DIET forever!!!

On a ‘regulated’ diet, GET THIN.

Off a ‘regulated’ diet, GET FAT.

And so we go on, we seem UNABLE to eat according to a non regulated diet without getting FAT simultaneously? What happened to us, we cannot eat based on instinct any more? ( Though I do not think it is our fault entirely, anyone ever looked at where your chicken comes from or the added sugar we get WITHOUT asking for it?)


I love this regulated diet to such an extent that I do believe a large portion of our population could eat this as a non-regulated diet with ease – so rather a lifestyle approach. I do also believe that the extreme 80% fat go-into-ketosis approach is not the only way IN. There is a well balanced intermittent fasting approach which people like myself can use to get into ketosis without fat loading.

For sportspeople, this keto process, in my opinion, is THE BEST option to maximize performance. I dealt with a gent who went on a regulated ketogenic diet and over 6 weeks got keto-adapted and I watched as his body burnt fat beautifully for fuel. This diet allows energy levels to explode, the reason being that your body LOVES using ketones for energy!! Once you are keto-adapted, there is a far greater drive to be active – win-win for sure.

Coming back to the Law of the Conservation of Energy, and how amazing the keto process is for sportspeople, (note that the ‘average’ [sic there it is, again] person, most likely is not training for Iron man BUT most likely IS trying to get to at least 150min of exercise a week,) THE KETO PROCESS works beautifully if you are a sports buff. You become keto-adapted and literally turn into a machine. Can you imagine, carbo-loading be gone… and… your endurance and recuperation is on a different level. If you are driven to improve your performance and endurance, or would just like to increase your understanding of keto, please read the amazing book by Stephen Phinney, The Art and Science of Low Carbohydrate Performance. Beyond Obesity LLC. Why this book, Stephen Phinney explains why keto-adaption is key especially as a sportsperson, on the regulated keto diet: 70 – 110 grams of fat may be burned per hour, 50% greater fat usage versus the average [sic] diet which uses 20 to 60grams of fat!


Besides burning fat which is a REAL ADVANTAGE if you on the overweight or obese category in life, the keto process is used to treat medical conditions such as epilepsy. Now, this is an interesting one, the emotions attached with epilepsy can prevent any caring mother to listen patiently when someone (that would be me) tries to explain how ‘food’ will solve her child’s epilepsy… We have such faith and belief in our doctors that we are blindsided by the simplest of answers. We, mere mortals, could not possibly solve it purely through the use of food? The science in the bag on this one, ‘keto diets’ are used to treat people with epilepsy, not to say that their epilepsy always disappears, but it does improve quite drastically. What a ketogenic state does: it alters genes involved in energy metabolism in the brain, which then helps stabilize neurons resulting in less epileptic seizures.

Your brain runs on KETONES or GLUCOSE not fat, in fact, its favorite fuel is ketones, it is pure and it is wholesome. Brain clarity is a great advantage of the Keto process. When your body burns ketones for fuel, it produces less oxidative stress vs carbs burning for fuel. Yes, you may get younger too! And not only that, in certain situations, it has been reported to reduce your body inflammation. However, I may add, I have read reports that are contrary to this last statement.


I found my clients going into ketosis, realized it was so firstly by physically tasting it on their breath, it can also be tested with test strips with urine. Other realizations as they were going into a ketogenic state were moodiness (that sugary wench needs to come out!) tiredness day 3 to 4 and sinus. This is the first point of going into ketosis, it is NOT YET keto-adapted. That takes at least 3 to 4 weeks of perfection, for some it takes months. Just for clarity purposes, my clients managed to go into ketosis on a regulated VLCD which split was 40% Protein, 40% Carb and 20% Fats but that said, ketosis is ketosis. Many think ketosis is 80% fat, 70, or 60%. There are variations. Ketosis or ketogenic state is what happens in your body, and there are various ways of getting INTO ketosis.

To be able to help you get into ketosis, chose the method you would prefer to use based on the fat content and calorie load, then get a good food tracking app, like MyFitnessPal. This allows you to log just about everything (except your children’s school extra murals) to enable the tweaking of your macronutrients to achieve desired results faster.


Besides the halitosis, what else should I be aware of? Firstly, you may not lose weight at all… despite loving your food and enjoying every meal and the fact that you are really trying… but still, no weight moves. The reasons are as follows; you could not be in ketosis due to too many carbs, too much protein, not ENOUGH calories (this is not starvation, in fact, it is extremely filling). You could be allergic or intolerant to some of the primary ingredients such as nuts, eggs, shellfish which all cause inflammation and then weight gain. You could also be leptin resistant (oh dear…). Leptin resistance is caused by stress (who doesn’t have that problem??) lack of sleep (ditto) and yo-yo dieting (50% of people on this planet).

Then there is the possibility of nutrient deficiency, people get so wrapped up in the yummy fats they forget about the fruits and vegetables we need to ensure we don’t run out of micronutrients…

Liver and kidney problems, if you already have a delicate liver and/or kidney, possibly well used, this diet may exasperate the problem ever so slightly.

Mood swings… this happens regardless of being on a ‘keto diet’. Sorry.

And last but by no means least, constipation due to lack of fiber for some people who do not eat enough of the vegetables. Personally, I never came across this one especially in people who ate large amounts of good fats.


Warning: the quality of fats you put into your body is extremely important. Junk fats are not deemed as good quality fats in your body. So too, Do talk to an advisor of choice, be it a doctor or registered dietitian before attempting a REGULATED ketogenic diet or ANY regulated diet.

Arugula, spinach, eggplant, mushrooms, broccoli, cauliflower, zucchini, bell peppers, fennel, cabbage, celery, Brussels sprouts, kale.
Starchy veggies such as carrots, yams, beets, turnips, sweet and regular potatoes should be avoided.

Tomatoes, avocado, blackberries, raspberries, blueberries, strawberries, coconut, lemon, and limes.
Off-limits are apples, pears, bananas, pineapples, papayas, grapes, and fruit juices in general (after all, fruit juice is equal to a fizzy drink, it just comes without the bubbles!!!).

Wild salmon, sardines, mackerel, shrimp, crab, tuna, mussels, cod.

Chicken, turkey, beef, venison, pork, lamb, eggs.

Macadamia nuts, flaxseed, Brazil nuts, chia seeds, walnuts, pecans, hemp seeds, hazelnuts, sesame seeds, pumpkin seeds, almonds.

Cheese, cottage cheese, plain Greek yogurt, cream, butter.

Extra-virgin olive oil, coconut oil, avocado oil, nut oils, coconut butter, MCT oil.

Olive oil mayonnaise, mustard, unsweetened ketchup (maybe just eat a tomato?), oil-based salad dressings.

Coffee, tea, dark chocolate.


Well, unless they (whoever they are these days) now decide, we as a population should get healthy by adding another classification of KETOVORE to our eating groups of omnivore, carnivore, an herbivore, I really don’t think so. Firstly, the REGULATED keto diet is NOT ONLY an 80% fat loaded diet (which can happen instantaneously apparently if you add some glup to this diet – someone would have figured out an additive to super-boost going into ketosis by now for sure…) You can go into ketosis without A HIGH fat diet. Secondly, it is not a diet, it is a state in which your body burns ketones for ENERGY, A PROCESS, a by-product is weight loss if you get it right, and yes many do.

‘THE’ diet, should rather be based on YOU. What you eat, how you live, YOUR health condition, YOUR emotional condition, your STRESS condition… all your CONDITIONS equate to you NOT BEING AVERAGE. Chew on that BEFORE you take on the keto PROCESS, as good as it is, YOU ARE BETTER.

10 Truths that may change your life?

10 Truths that may change your life?

Ever wished you had a magic wand at your disposal? That somehow you could just say the right words to make magic happen? These are 10 truths, given some time in YOUR life, may make a difference!

Will it make a difference in my FINANCES, I get asked… Maybe I reply, would it improve my RELATIONSHIPS, possibly is my answer, and will it make me HEALTHIER, leaner more vibrant? So many questions when I make the suggestion to use 10 simple YET PROFOUND sentences, one a day, that could make your INSIDE a little better on the OUTSIDE.

Where do these 10 truths coming from, who thought of them and why should I pay attention you may be asking? Like all good things in life, it has a history. These 10 truths are based on a book dear to me, an inspiring author and the impactful words he put to paper, back in 1968. The book is ‘The Greatest Salesman in the World‘ by Og Mandino from which the greatest 10 truths, referred to as scrolls by the author, will be shared.

Firstly do not let the title sway you off course, it was dedicated to W Clement Stone, who by all counts was the greatest salesman (who if you like a little history is connected to and inspired Napoleon Hill who wrote one of the most read books on the planet; Think & Grow Rich – currently at 9th position worldwide, if you haven’t read it… oh dear).

Top 10 most read books in the world.
Top 10 most read books in the world.

This is a different understanding of how to achieve success no matter if you apply it to FINANCES, RELATIONSHIPS or HEALTH. Regardless of it being written in 1968, it is as relevant now as it was then. Great minds from many moons back still have an impact now.

What shifted my understanding of this book, and if you have not read it, do take the time to do so, was how the scrolls, the 10 truths CAN APPLY TO ANYTHING in life. All that is required is a little bit of imagination. The basic 10 truths as written by the great Og Mandino will be presented below, then use a bit of imagination on how to apply it to current focus areas in your life that may need a little bit of TLC. I will give you a general understanding and example of how to apply it and I will stay the course throughout the 10 truths for a better understanding, I have used ‘going on diet’ as the focus area.

I would like to add, each and every scroll in this gem of a book,
ever word,
as is,
as written, is brilliant and can be used verbatim… But if like me, you are not a salesman, it may feel, this said with respect, a bit disconnected when you say “I am the greatest salesman” daily, so never fear, replace words to suit your needs, it could be “I am the greatest 100m athlete“, make it relevant to you.

Now, long live the words that were written by Og Mandino, let’s embrace them and give them a new texture and life based on applicability to our lives today… Start by reading the book start to finish… Now this may take a while as part of the process is taking each of these TRUTHS (referred to as scrolls in the book) and reading each of them for 30 days, so basically just over 10 months of reading. If you would like an overview, it can be read in an afternoon, but how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time…

The 10 truths, the scrolls that will transform your life!

Each ‘scroll’ 1 to 10, the 10 truths, will be listed below, a suggested question will be asked based on the scroll/truth, your mind will attempt to find the answer, yes, I want your brain and subconscious to really get involved in transforming your life. I then highlight a favorite passage, one which I feel is relevant regardless of the year we find ourselves in – that being said, I trust that the little passages will motivate you to pick up this book and READ IT! I share my opinion on the passage and would love to hear yours too!

10 Truths can be transformational if you allow it to be.
10 Truths can be transformational if you allow it to be.

My suggestion is to do as following:

  • read the scroll/truth out loud with ENTHUSIASM,
  • ask yourself the question related to it. – You may ask WHY? Your brain will speed ahead looking for the answer and work relentlessly to find that answer 24/7 – as with these scrolls, finding the answers could be life-changing in a positive way.

NOTE: The main action is the replacement of the worlds ‘greatest salesman’, I have made use of diet as the reframing. Let us begin.

Truth 1
“The Scroll Marked I”
“Today I begin a new life” – Could be: Today I begin a new life focussed on my diet success.

Question yourself: Why do I begin a new life today and every day [succeeding on my diet]?

Excerpt: “I will commence my journey unencumbered with either the weight of unnecessary knowledge or the handicap of meaningless experience. Nature already has supplied me with knowledge and instinct far greater than any beast in the forest and the value of experience is overrated, usually by old men who nod wisely and speak stupidly.”

Is this not a truth, each an every day we wake up, some with a fantastic morning routine, others with yesterday’s chaos still on their minds. If you wake up and declare that you are beginning a new life today does that not open up a world of possibilities for you?

As you wake up, start your day off with saying ‘thank you’, thank you for a beautiful day, for a family, for a home to live in, for an awesome cup of coffee – you can find SOMETHING to say thank you for, even if it is just breathing. By starting each day as if it is a new life, the positive internal energies CAN escape and lay the foundation to a massively successful day.

Then my chosen excerpt for Scroll I lays close to my heart as it is based on our inborn intuitive ability. That KNOWINGNESS, that natural instinct applied to every thought and action we have, that goes beyond any other living form. This allows us to make decisions and act without “the weight of unnecessary knowledge or the handicap of meaningless experience“. Often we do our best PURELY driven by instinct, NOT desire, NOT passion, just pure RAW INSTINCT.

Maybe you are starting a new diet, job, relationship, can you imagine the internal strength you will feel if you say with enthusiasm, TODAY, I begin a NEW diet/job/relationship!!! But say it with unbridled emotion, let it go sit on your heart center, on your chest, let it bring tears to your eyes, one simple sentence could invoke joy, which can lead to action and eventually success.

Truth 2
“The Scroll Marked II”
“I will greet this day with love in my heart” – Could be, I will greet this day with love in my heart and a positive mental attitude about my diet.

Question yourself: Why will I greet this day with love in my heart [staying positive about my diet along the way]?

Excerpt: “And how will I confront each whom I meet? In only one way. In silence and to myself I will address him and say I Love You. Though spoken in silence these words will shine in my eyes, unwrinkle my brow, bring a smile to my lips, and echo in my voice; and his heart will be opened”

Have you ever, without a moment’s hesitation given a stranger the biggest sincerest smile you have? Have you felt how oddly good it feels WITHIN? And have you noticed that generally the stranger cannot help BUT to smile back? Now, add to that, the thought of I Love You… Og Mandino gives the perfect recipe to giving love to others AND TO YOURSELF! I can literally hear my inner goddess squealing with glee as I perform the action above. In need of healing? Tried of affirmations? Saying them till you go blue in the face? Start by loving yourself first, try this out, you may just be surprised… and hands down, my favorite scroll, for without love, how do we do anything?

Truth 3
“The Scroll Marked III”
“I will persist until I succeed” – Could be, I will persist until I succeed on my diet to better health.

Question yourself: Why will I persist [on my diet] until I succeed?

Excerpt: “The prizes of life are at the end of each journey, not near the beginning; and it is not given to me to know how many steps are necessary in order to reach my goal. Failure I may still encounter at the thousandth step, yet success hides behind the next bend in the road. Never will I know how close it lies unless I turn the corner. Always will I take another step. If there is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult.”

Truth? There is always a journey associated. We tend to see the gold medal winners and think how great it would be to be them? They have gone through their trials and tribulations, hard work, sweat and tears for that one moment of wearing the gold medal. It only comes down to that persistence, no matter where on your journey you may be, persistence is always required. Somebody may ask how to be persistent, how to carry on? I see it like this, if you are passionate about what you have tackled, be it a diet or a job, if you have an absolute desire, you will stay persistent by finding inspired dissatisfaction, something which keeps you moving forward! If not, you may be on the wrong journey…

Truth 4
“The Scroll Marked IV”
“I am nature’s greatest miracle” – Could be, I am nature’s greatest miracle and will be supported on my journey.

Question yourself: Why am I natures greatest miracle [receiving such amazing support on my journey]?

Excerpt: “I can accomplish far more than I have, and I will, for why should the miracle which produced me end with my birth? Why can I not extend that miracle to my deeds of today?”

I have read many a book and never have I been confronted with a sentence that holds as much TRUTH as this is. I spend time dissecting why we as a human race some seem complacent about where they are and where they are going, that living life is a process of following A – Z. This Og Mandino sentence alone says we should be reaching for more, accomplishing more, purely based on the fact that we are ALL walking MIRACLES. Now I am not saying we need to chase for more, as I do believe by just BEING we are achieving, we are tuning into our existing energies, collaborating with ‘all that is’ to create our miracles tiny as they may be (I mean, breathing can be fairly complicated if you look into the science as we know it). If we all had to realize the miracles we were, what would be possible? I for sure feel nothing will be impossible if that scroll/truth was a sentence our children were taught at school.

Truth 5
“The Scroll Marked V”
“I will live this day as if it is my last” – Could be, I will live this day as if it is my last need for a diet ever again!

Question yourself: Why do I live this day as if it is my last [need for a diet every again]?

Excerpt: “This day I will make the best day of my life. This day I will drink every minute to its full. I will savor its taste and give thanks. I will maketh every hour count and each minute I will trade only for some of value.”

Being present is one of the greatest virtues to have.

I sit engrossed in a story my daughter shares, valuing every bit of detail from the words she utters to the expression on her face as the story unfolds, for I KNOW, in an instant that ‘time’ is lost, history… as she rushes off on a new adventure.
PAUSE for crying out loud,
take it in,
feel the energy of the moment,
for it is MORE THAN WORDS or actions, it is time passing us by, NEVER to return again.

Nurture a sense of appreciation, a beingness, a presence that stretches time.

Life is now, it cannot exist in the past and it has no definite future. Only now. Make it count. Eckhart Tolle explains it beautifully in his book “The Power of Now” if you feel the need to get to grips with NOW read it.

Stretch time, it IS POSSIBLE

Truth 6
“The Scroll Marked VI”
“Today I will be the master of my emotions” – Could be, Today, I will be the master of my emotions as I have made perfect nourishment choices, keeping my body and mind balanced.

Question yourself: Why will I master my emotions [and have perfect nourishment keeping my body and mind in balance]?

Excerpt: “Each day, when I awaken, I will follow this plan of battle before I am captured by the forces of sadness, self-pity and failure-
If I feel depressed I will sing.
If I feel sad I will laugh.
If I feel ill I will double my labor.
If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.
If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.
If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.
If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.
if I feel incompetent I will remember past success.
If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.”

There is always something BETTER, brighter, more positive to reach for, something or someone to hold close, a better habit, a better thought, something to be GRATEFUL for. I work on the process of ‘WHAT IF UP‘, the UP being a positive step up from whatever crisis or event faces me. I may be facing a stressful meeting, feeling in my gut that it will possibly be tough to face a person, I immediately say ‘what if this is the best conversation ever had!?’ as an example, immediately my energy is better and chances are I DO have the BEST conversation ever.

Truth 7
“The Scroll Marked VII”
“I will laugh at the world” – Could be, I will laugh at the world today as I am in control of my health.

Question yourself: Why will I laugh at the world [and be in control of my health today]?

Excerpt: “Henceforth I will cultivate the habit of laughter. I will smile and my digestion will improve; I will chuckle and my burdens will be lightened; I will laugh and my life will be lengthened for this is the great secret of long life and now it is mine.

What is in a smile and a laugh? Good health spreads from that smile and laugh downwards in your body and outwards, it permeates every cell and microorganism of your being. Yes, when I read this scroll/truth, I may have first thought that it is not necessarily polite to laugh at the world, and then I got it… Besides the feel-good endorphins it releases, it protects your heart health and builds your immunity… all that is found in a good laugh! Read up on the need for a good laugh – I am all sorts of serious so this was a benefit for me in more ways than just a smile.

Truth 8
“The Scroll Marked VIII”
“Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold” – Could be, Today I will multiply my value a hundredfold for I now have the energy!

Question yourself: Why will I multiply my value a hundredfold today [with amazing energy]?

Excerpt: “Today I will surpass every action which I performed yesterday. I will climb today’s mountain to the utmost of my ability yet tomorrow I will climb higher than today, and the next will be higher than tomorrow. To surpass the deeds of others is unimportant; to surpass my own deeds is all.”

Our only true competition in life is ourselves. If we live a life of expression and reach to be the perfect expression, a human being on planet earth (which by the way is exactly as we were at birth), then all we need to be concerned about is when we look into a mirror, being able to love who you see, when we get into bed at night, being able to close our eyes and go to sleep at peace and with ease. We are our only competition, there is only one of us on planet earth and only we as individuals can be the best of what we can be. It becomes OUR CHOICE, after all, life does not happen TO US, but FOR US.

Truth 9
“The Scroll Marked IX”
“I will act now” – Could be, I will act now as I am worth it.

Question yourself: Why will I act now [with the knowledge that I am worth it]?

Excerpt: “I hunger for success. I thirst for happiness and peace of mind. Lest I act I will perish in a life of failure, misery, and sleepless nights.”

Faith can move a mountain, but don’t forget to bring a spade. Can this be seen as not having faith? I don’t think so. I believe life is a good game of tennis, firstly you need to show up at the court, have a partner, a game plan, ability, conviction, and a desire to have fun. Then as you serve your ball to your partner they are not going to throw a banana back at you, chances are they will return the SAME tennis ball back to you or there will be no game to play. Life kinda works that way too. By acting NOW a certain sense of spirit, an energy attaches to the action and a lot can be accomplished.

Truth 10
“The Scroll Marked X”
“Today I will pray for guidance” – Could be; Today I will pray for guidance on my journey to better health.

Question yourself: Why will I pray for guidance today [as I journey to better health]?

Excerpt: “The guidance I seek may come, or the guidance I seek may not come, but are not both of these an answer?”

Now there is a beautiful prayer at the end of this book in Scroll 10 or the final of the 10 TRUTHS. The basics of it are to pray for guidance. Now, you may meditate instead of prayer, either way, that quiet time can be soul nurturing and I find it a perfect time to listen to the messages being sent to me. GUIDANCE, the word, is used frequently alongside assurance and encouragement. Each of us, on our personal life journeys, will experience an advantage along the way if guidance is received. You may have to pray, meditate or just soundboard with a close friend, mentor or coach. In whichever way you find success, DO IT.

This book, these scrolls, the 10 Truths of life, if taken not only as some whimsical self-development process but taken to heart and integrated into your everyday life, can be impactful. I am eternally grateful to a man like Og Mandino who shared these beautiful words as they truly have had an impact on my life.

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